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Shelby Haven

Alright so I’m new to this but I need some serious advice. I’m scared to death on what I should do in my life! I’m 19…

Alright so I’m new to this but I need some serious advice. I’m scared to death on what I should do in my life! I’m 19 and working but feel that I’m not going to be enough for my baby girl. I want to keep her with all my heart but everyone around me says that I’ll make a horrible mom and that I might as well give it up for adoption... I’m honestly really tied on what to do and cry myself to sleep every night not knowing what to do. Can anyone give me advice on what I should do?!?

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haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@redheaded_inkednurse, I really do want to. I work a full time job and hoping to go to college this summer or go to a technical college and learn trades while she’s young. I’m just scared I’ll make the wrong decision

mommytosarahi

Jasmin

Keep your baby :) prove everyone wrong!

chaaaachix

Chachi Martinez

Мама троих детей

Keep your baby girl. Raise her the best you can. Support her with all that you have. Don't overthink it. She's gonna love you no matter what. Even on the days you may not know it. Everyone can have their stupid opinions, but ultimately, you are doing your very best and that's what counts. They can leave just as easily as they expected you to leave your baby. For anyone to tell you to do that, they don't deserve to be around for your beautiful future with her. You got this.❤

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@chaaaachix, thank you so much!!!

kristenmarie

kristen

Keep her and prove to everybody how strong you really are and that you can do it. I had my son at 19 and I was scared to death. I had a full time job and the unknown of having a baby scared me shitless. But I did it! There were times where I wanted to give up, but he’s a wild two year old now and I’d do anything for him. He’s my whole world and I’m so thankful to grow with him while he grows.

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@kcamps, my biggest fear is not being able to support her with all my other bills....

kristenmarie

kristen

@haven.shelby7, I completely understand that fear. I’ve been there, have you thought about reaching out for government assistance? You can do WIC, food stamps, and cash assistance, and even have her covered with health insurance through the state. They are there to help you and your little one!

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@kcamps, I can try WIC but food stamps I can’t do because the people in my household make too much, im living there rent free but it’s a household income right?

kristenmarie

kristen

@haven.shelby7, yeah for food stamps they calculate through the household income, but you could always try to explain your situation and let them know even though you don’t pay rent you do pay other bills that leaves you tight on money for food. There’s definitely ways to get around it!

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@kcamps, alright I will definitely look into it!!!

kristenmarie

kristen

@haven.shelby7, good luck girl! If you need anything just message me on here:)

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@kcamps, thank you so much!!!

mollygirl26

Molly Gable

Girl I am 18, going back to school in August and just recently quit my full time job to get a part one so I could be home more. The good things in life are never easy but I want you to know it is possible. And if you decide to keep her. Anyone that really loves you will support you.

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@mollygirl26, yeah I just had to quit my full time job because my bosses where just absolutely horrible and wouldn’t even let me go pee when I needed to. It was a disaster so now I need to find another job but my savings for my baby are wearing up from bills and things

mollygirl26

Molly Gable

@haven.shelby7 oh I you understand there. It adds up quick. I am really bad with that so I bought a planner and budget bills in then what's left over and what I need for the baby and how much I have that week to spend on it. Organization is key!

mollygirl26

Molly Gable

@haven.shelby7 If you ever need to talk my inbox is open!

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

I gotta learn that in 3 months help!!!!

mollygirl26

Molly Gable

@haven.shelby7 well first I just got a planner I liked. Then added every bill for that month on the day it was due. Then added pay days. Then seen after paying bills that week how much was left. Put that on a sticky note at the end of the week. Wrote a list of what was needed for baby. And depending on the amount of money that week wrote a goal to buy that thing. For bigger things maybe 2 weeks. I plan to spend most of taxes on it though.

haven.shelby7

Shelby Haven

@mollygirl26, ooo that’s a good idea

mollygirl26

Molly Gable

@haven.shelby7 you just really have to watch every penny you spend. But it's not impossible.

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

I’m Military mommy of 6 with baby girl due Nov 7, I’m from Cali but currently stationed in Ohio

I’m Military mommy of 6 with baby girl due Nov 7, I’m from Cali but currently stationed in Ohio I know someone stole my identity that’s the only reason I’m on here ... and I am in the Army I’m AGR I work at a reserve center in Monclova and my husbands a recruiter please see the attached profile please block her/his asss This is crazy !!! I was informed they were doing this on my instagram @honniifitz this is the real me 🤬🙄I’m so irritated sorry everyone for what this person has been doing I have reported them if you can please do the same I can verify I’m the Real SGT Fitzgerald #myfirstpost