That is worse than being abused physicially. You stated you woke up and you were scared. That to me doesn't sound okay. You said you are of victim of rape so for him not to ask consent is questionable to me for you especially as well as anyone else. But that is me. My opinion that is absolutely unacceptable.

That is rape. I dont care if he is your boyfriend or husband or whatever. If you dont consent to it then it is rape. No other explanations are valid. It isnt okay to have sex with someone who hasnt said it is okay to do so. Especially if you are victim of it is a huge problem. How do you not know if someone is up when your actively sleeping with them. This isn't rocket science. That is terrible, he is an awful person period.

@teebear74 Okay and I will

@mama_of_2_under_2, you are very welcome

@teebear74 awe thank you

@mama_of_2_under_2, I wish you luck hunny . If you need any advice or just someone to vent to , you can send me a message .

@teebear74 yeah I know

@mama_of_2_under_2, okay good otherwise it creates a worse situation on your relationship , mentality , and everything else .

@teebear74 we are and same

@mama_of_2_under_2, yea you guys should have a real serious sit down because I know how that trauma feels

@verguinia yeah

@mama_of_2_under_2 smart call !

@verguinia I actually was going to sleep in his brothers room till things stop being weird

@mama_of_2_under_2 good ! And you should sleep in a different room with your son for a while to let him know it's not just words it's for real !

@verguinia oh I already nipped it in the butt. He said he'll never do it again. But when he gets home from work we are going to talk.

@mama_of_2_under_2 sometimes men do things knowing exactly what they are doing and then twist it around to you scrambling the truth don't let him scramble what he did he knew what he was doing, crying or not he knew what he was doing if this is the first try he has done put your foot down now and let him know it's a no no !!!! Men try things like kids to see how you would react and if they can get away with it !

@verguinia I know he thought I was awake because he usually kisses me awake but I didn't wake up this time. He feels really bad. He's called me twice crying saying he didn't know I wasn't awake and that he loves me and would never do anything to harm me.

@mama_of_2_under_2 thats not nice shows he doesn't really respect you enough as a person like your a toy he can use when ever he wants no your not an object and you don't deserve this type of treatment at all especially if your pregnant on top of it all

@verguinia he wasn't sleep he was wide awake and looking me in the face.

Could he gave done it in his sleep ?

@beemommyof3 true Idk I'm talking to him now about it. And true when I like made a sound he asked if I wanted him to stop I completely couldn't say anything I was just scared and froze.

That is worse than being abused physicially. You stated you woke up and you were scared. That to me doesn't sound okay. You said you are of victim of rape so for him not to ask consent is questionable to me for you especially as well as anyone else. But that is me. My opinion that is absolutely unacceptable.

@beemommyof3 he's not an awful person he's never hit me or anything I just think he must of that it was okay when I turned over.

@mommytoatlas that is true

@alanasmommy81815 I didn't know what to call it. I told him no earlier that night. I told him I was feeling good and that we can cuddle but then he woke up for work and thought I would be okay with that.

@teebear74 he said I didn't say anything to edge him on anything I was silent he thought I was awake when he kissed me

@alicianoelle thanks and I am going to definitely talk to him

@beemommyof3 @birdknees79 have said exactly what i was thinking.

That is rape. I dont care if he is your boyfriend or husband or whatever. If you dont consent to it then it is rape. No other explanations are valid. It isnt okay to have sex with someone who hasnt said it is okay to do so. Especially if you are victim of it is a huge problem. How do you not know if someone is up when your actively sleeping with them. This isn't rocket science. That is terrible, he is an awful person period.

I dont think its considered rape unless you told him no first? I mean thats what ive been told. Don't know if i agree ... Not saying thats okay what so ever ...my ex used to do that and it got to the point where i would tell him NO repeatedly and he still would proceed to do it. I never thought of it as rape until my bestfriend told me otherwise ...if you're not okay with it It's a problem !

Don't brush it off . That's the worse thing you can do . Try to just have a civilized discussion about it and personalize it for him so maybe he can have a better understanding. And also let him say his peace (if he has any). Keeping it in silence is only gonna make things worse and you will remember it after you give birth . & by then it might worsen . So just have a productive talk about it and how you both can make it comfortable next time . I know I have whole conversations in my sleep sometimes so maybe check to see what his side of how things started in the first place .

The way you reacted show's how strong you are. If that would've been my boyfriend I would be kicking him out the same night that's technically rape... But definitely talk to your man and come to a understanding that what he did was wrong

@momboo true and thanks me too

@birdknees79 exactly but I'm going to talk to him when he gets home from work. Because I can't sleep now. I just want to vomit and then go to sleep.

@mama_of_2_under_2 sure it's better easy way of solving problem then this drama who's no one need

Hopefully it's all go smooth 🌹 I'm sure it will 💗

@momboo that's true and thanks I will when he comes home from work

@mama_of_2_under_2 oh then it's little bit different story , but still communication is a key,I can imagine how you feel, repeat this to him again how it's made you feel and hopefully it's was last time

Man's need consistently be repeated! 😶

@birdknees79 now he's texting me oh I'm sorry I thought you were awake I said its whatever and to focus on going to work safely. No I'm not okay with stuff like that. As I am a victim of rape, abuse, and molestation. I just don't even want to talk to him I just want to throw up and go to sleep.

@momboo that's the thing I shouldn't have to tell him what's right and what's wrong. He knows I've been raped multiple times before. I tell him all the time wake me up if you want to have sex. I just felt like I just got violated in such sense. Because I and my son was both sleeping right there and he could of easily woke me up and we could of went on the floor or the couch.

Relax mama, it's definitely not raping but it's something to talk about explain him in morning,why you don't like it and make sure his don't do it next time