So i need advice. I don't know weather i should or how or when to tell my dad when i give birth. He's never really been an active part of my life. And he was the only person talking shit when i first told everyone i was pregnant (my aunt told him because i didnt see why i should since he never checks up on me so why should i?) When he found out he called me and we had a short convo. He hadn't contacted me after that but he came to the baby shower (wich i was super surprised about considering hes never even showed up to a birthday party) acting like father/grandfather of the year and i let him cause i was too busy being happy to let him ruin my mood. Since the baby shower he still hasnt made an effort to check up on me and be in my life despite acting like he actually cared at the baby shower. I even texted him a pic of us from the baby shower to be nice and he said thanks for the pic but other than that still hasn't contacted me! So it seems to me that he still has no intention of making a real effort with me and if he's not gonna look for me why should i look for him? But he's still my dad so i just dont know what to do. Part of me feels like i should tell him cause he's my dad but the other part of me is like fuck that. Im just really torn. I feel like hes the father and he should be the one making the effort. And i don't want him in my sons life coming around when he feels like and making empty promises like he's done to me and my siblings our whole lives. I don't need my son growing up with that disappointment as resentment.