I need advice ladies...badly... Idk what to do.. My mom is doing everything she can to get my feancei/babydaddy to leave because she thinks if hes gone ill sign my rights over to her so she can get a check. Well its getting really tense i just got in a litterly screaming battle for over 2 hours my man came home and listened an herd it way back in my rm she was saying how hes worthless and does nothing for me. Yet he supports me and is here for the baby and i know its got to be soo hard for him to deal with her see she has a habit of stealing our money and valubles she took my engagment ring when i had it in cleaner in the bathrm and sold it at a pawn shop he seen it for sale for 2500$ when he went to look for a tv. Well he almost had a heart attack he wanted to press charges cuz she did steal it. But he was kind and even told her she didnt have to pay him back cuz he paid 600+to get it out. And he always runs errands for her. Well he bought a safe yesterday for us one that she cant brake into and ever since that she hasnt stopped ragging on him then she starts talking bout my exs and comes in my rm and rags on me cuz how many bfs iv had. An said im nasty. And my man said "well im sorry but i dont live in her past. I love her for her so can u please stop trying to pick fights with her she is high risk and on bed rest and u were jumping on her earlier saying i stress her out when i have been doing nothing but what she ask)-referring to me and he has.hes been really good even tho my brother or mother stole his wallet including i.d and slashed his tires. So see we cant save cuz hes always replacing tires were trying everything to get out of her because honestly id rather go homeless then live here... I cant take it my mom is stressing me out to the point im having pains in my pelvic area. And my man went to the drs with me and he said the baby is going to die if the stress continues. Well we found out were having a boy and hes so happy and its like my moms jelous of our relationship. So tonite she tried to make a fool of me infront of my step dad instead the table flipped and i told on her. About how she lets my brother smoke drugs here and not just weed btw. And now my step dad FINALLY understands why i dont wanna bring a child in this hellhole. Im just so upset were barly getting by. He works so hard all morning and day an his money see my moms chargen us 550 a month. Yet she comes in our rm dont knock an burst into the bathrm when hes showering like its suppost to be ok? We wan to get out by dec 1st. Even if it means were homeless for a few weeks to save up.. Because we just cant take the stress he loves me soo much that hes staying by my side but i see the stress in his face he cried tonite and said why wont ur mom just leave us alone and let us have this baby (because i have ovarian cancer and if the baby miscarrys there doing surgury which concist of tying my tubes so this is litterly our only chance at having a baby and shes trying to ruin it and if she cost me motherhood i will never forgive her..)
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@tyrellp well see if we move shes gonna loose the place cuz we pay ALL the bills. SO thats why im scared cuz idk what will happen to her. She did have her man but he cheated n left then she begged me to move in that she wanted to be in her grandbabys life and could use the help... Then she snapped and has been very violent and aggressive. Its scaring me shes never been lik this..
@tyrellp it aint just stress. Its physcial abuse.. But i dont want to send my mom to jail.. I still love her but she is so mad cuz i won't sign my rights over. So since i wont do that cuz she said itd help her financially and i aint giving my child over for her to use. Heck no. And my man hell no he wont ever sign his rights over. He is so miserable here.. She hit me in the face today because i told her im moving out i cant take this anymore. But of course since i am on probation for something i did when i was 16 and im 22 now. And she uses it aganst me and last time i caled the cops on her she planted shit in my rm and got me sent to jail for a year. So i just want to leave but shes milking all our money every penny and we cant save when she demands this and that. But iv been going to church lately and my man he is the one who tells me to just prey he saya that something isnt right in her head and not to hold a grudge or anything but i love her to death still.. But im scared shes gonna end up hitting me in the stomach one of these times cuz today she threw a hard back book at me and busted my lip. If it hit my stomach hard enough that can kill a baby. And i go to the drs with bruises on me and say its jus from me tripping cuz i dont want my mom to go to jail cuz its a horrible place.. And idk i jus feel bad for her but dont understand why shes doing this its like ever since she found out her mans cheating she snapped and is making my relationship crumble because she sees that im happy for once.. Last time i found a good guy she freakin slept with him. But my feancei now hed never do that wen we found out were having a boy u he litterly jumped up out of his seat and was like YES! And hes so happy an lookin forward to being s dad im jus happy hes sticking by my side through this hell rite now.... It means alot. And shows alot its only making us stronger to.
@taylorsmommy10817. Ya thats how my mom is and like they were ok until i got prego and won't sign my rights over.. She will only give my son a miserable life like she did me i been payin rent since i was 14. And then she stole money started stealing at 15. And he pays rent and they want us to paint the rm and for one it was like this when we moved here and the rm has stuff of everyones in the rm were in and they want us to paint it meaning moving every item out side and paint all in same dam day they expect me to be able to deal with the smell of paint an be able to paint i cant even stand up over 10min without loosen vision an getting saverely dizzy id rather sleep in a car then be here.. Itd only take a few weeks to get enough money because they take every penny he makes and then expects me to give all my food stamps and then i dont even get meals out of it shell cook and purposely burn stuff and then shell go get fast food pizza or watever eat infront of me and him like were trash. And my brother is on their side and he does it along with them im so tired of this.. Id almost do anything to get out of here i looked at housing and apts. But alls over 600 and plus utilitys if utilitys were included wed be ok. But im almost 6 months an have zero dollars saved for my son if i dont get outa here ima be stuck for ever and its like a dark hole and my depression is growing to the point of thinking if i was dead MAYBE itd make every1 happy then my child wouldnt have to suffer going without and live with all this stress. The fact she was ok with the pregnacy until we wouldnt sign our rights over shes on a track to not even being in her grand kids life because i have an option to move to his fam in flordia but see im on probation.. And cant leave state its lika ball and chain holding me and i feel so bad cuz of something i did over 5 yrs ago is still following me i just idk so much stress then emotions running wild. Hes wanting to just sleep in a tent and save money because it is that bad and that has to say alot if hed sleep in the freezing cold then deal with her cuz he hates watchen her put me down she will just come to my rm and say so hows the bastard baby? And me an him are engaged we wanted to do things right when we got married not just rush into it ya know... I mean im just stuck idk what to do =(
I rent a nice ass house for only $450 a month. U can find somewhere where yall can live alone without stress. I went through the same stuff with my mom
Sorry you going through this. Find a good local church to attend they can help a lot and God will change your life if you ask him and let him. Pray. I’ll keep you in my prayers
Apply for aid through the state. Apply for housing, since I assume while on bedrest you aren't working.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Is his family nearby? Any friends you can ask for help?
@tyrellp. Thanks and i wish things would of gotten better its just gotten worse iv been calling places ever since i got internet im waiting on a few places to reply back to me