This week me and my significant other (also a first time dad) both had a cold, and it was causing me hell to sleep in combination with constant nausea, and he told me I complain to much, and I'm too emotional, and that I'm lucky I'm not up having to go to work like him.

I appreciate how hard he is working to support us, but this pregnancy is completely draining so far and he doesn't understand.

Hopefully, yours will come around to being more understand. I've got my fingers crossed that mine will gain some empathy.

Oh wow! Yeah so? I was working and there was a miscommunication with my boss this week and she said “I quit” and I hadn’t? And she had already taken me off of everything? It was really weird. I think she was mad I was pregnant? She never liked me 🙄 whatever ha I have server experience but I’m showing and I don’t know if anyone would ever want to hire someone whose clearly pregnant lol but that sounds amazing!! Yeah the closest one is probably 30 min from me but for a job? Not bad (:

@jlawrence62317, bless your heart! He sounds definitely like he's just nervous and stressed. But, STILL, you're growing a baby..his baby. I hope he perks up and gets easier to get along with! ❤️ Is it easier for you not to work, or are you looking for a job? I only mention that because, I know that there is a cheesecake factory in Murray, Utah. Serving I make anywhere between $100-$200 a night. But average $100 and night. It's not a lot, but its something… And it's really relatively easy. If you want a job, just let me know… My husband and I have worked for the company for 10 years and 7 years. I can get you on no questions asked!

And their maternity leave is phenomenal! I don't know about the state of Utah, but the state of California of course gives you your basic maternity leave. And then Cheesecake gives you an additional six weeks of "family bond leaving".

But! If you're wanting to be a stay home mom, totally understand!(:

Yeah so he’s the same way, but this pregnancy was planning. My first planned one compared to the other two😂 and with my older two kids their dad was like that “happy go lucky” crap until it came down to it pretty much.

But my husbands very excited; I think he’s nervous ? This will be my third but his first. He has no nieces or nephews and has literally never been around kids until mine. Idk what has been his deal lately? And I know I’m not easy to deal with? Especially pregnant... but? Idk. But I’m glad you did bring it up because Id thought he wasn’t ready too and then I sat down and had a talk with him, and he said he’s more than excited but very very nervous and I’m stay at home right now so all the financial burden is on him, plus? We’re trying to be into a house by the time the baby is born and blah blah. We literally have a million things going on that fall into

His lap that that there isn’t much I can help with. I feel awful but? 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m trying to do my part around the house and it’s never good enough. Idk like because I’m not “working” I’m doing nothing. I hate his outlook lately and I’d rather be a single mom than deal with the stress of fighting and what it does to the kids.

@jlawrence62317, oh I'm so sorry. I just can't fathom... my mom and grandmother had the same thoughts when I was pregnant.. "you're not crazy, you're just hormonal." 🙄😠 It used to make me SO mad! I could only imagine if my husband acted the same way. I'm pretty fortunate though that my husband is just extremely kind. This may be over stepping my boundaries - and I'm so sorry if I am! Forgive me! - but, do you think it may be that he's not ready for the baby? I mean, if so, too late now man. BUT, my best friend had this issue where her fiancé was literally the nicest guy ever.. would never raise his voice, and did everything for her. Then they got pregnant and he acted happy at first, but then started putting her down. Not carrying about doctors appointments, not talking much about the pregnancy. He'd call her crazy, hormonal, and bitchy. It finally came out that he was feeling "trapped" and "just not ready". 🙄🙄🙄 #GrowUp.

They ended up breaking up, and for the first four or six months he'd have visits with the baby, but then he literally stop answering his phone and eventually changed his phone number. Good riddance in our opinion, but still. Maybe he's not "ready"? Or maybe it's just that he's stressed and not knowing the proper way of speaking his mind?

Thank you! Like? If my pregnancy is anything like it has been these last 6 weeks? Then I honestly don’t think we will make it. When I’m cranky he’s like “I know it’s not you so that helps me stay patient” UHM it is me?? I’m upset because you’re rude about everything.

Eeeeh, I don't know. I feel like any and all men should respect and never have anything negative to say while their significant others / wives are growing a baby. This is the most emotional, difficult, stressful time of your life- you deserve 100% support. Nap all day everyday if you want to. If things really need done on a schedule, then he needs to step up and help. You're not overreacting..he needs to support you and whatever you need at any given time!