It's so hard to enjoy my pregnancy when my mother in law just likes to knock my excitement down. For example when I got my last ultrasound I texted her some pictures and a video of the heartbeat. She replies telling how mad she is that I got another ultrasound done without her (she lives 1000 miles away) and that she's disappointed that she can't help raise her first grandchild. She always says something like that whenever me or my husband mention my pregnancy. I want to keep her involved I just don't know how long I can go without snapping at her.
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@acrdrgz, thank you for your insight, I understand that my MIL may be in pain and we've talked about it constantly. I really hope things do get better when the baby is actually here because I hate being depressed for things I can't change.
Ok so... first let me say that she’s out of line and taking out her feelings on the wrong person. So I don’t want it to sound like I’m saying what she’s doing is ok. But... I had a similar experience with my mom. She’d try to be excited but since she lives across the country, she also communicated a lot of negativity. Like she was always saying, “well it doesn’t matter - that child won’t even know me.” And I’d try to reassure her that we would Skype etc and she’d just say that wasn’t how she wanted to have a grandchild. What I didn’t realize though was that there was a lot of pain for her. It was hard enough having me so far away, and now she had to reconcile the fact that my baby would be far away too. She shouldn’t have been so passive aggressive, but she was dealing with her own pain. Anyway, fast forward 8 months and she is absolutely in love with my daughter. We send video messages every day and she sends her little gifts all the time and every time we visit it lights up her world. I really hope the same happens with your MIL - she’ll be so in love with that baby that joy will replace her pain. (Sorry super long comment!)
@slwwesselman, I hope it gets better too. And if not then you have every right to distance yourself as much as possible from anything and anyone that might put a damper on the joy you’re going to be experiencing in being a Mom!