Julianna
juliannap
Julianna·Мама сына (1 год), беременна (16 нед.)

Please no judgments.. I need serious advice.

I left my sons father in December after 6 years for stupid reasons. Met someone new, literally fell in love instantly. I met him on my trip to Colombia.. we kicked it off instantly!!!! He is an amazing guy. We had a long distance relationship as I live in America and he lives in Argentina. I went to Argentina twice and we also met up in colombia again in July. The long distance factor didn't bother me because he made me feel as if he was physically close to me. We shared great memories together and I fell in love. I am now sitting here 4 months pregnant by him. I am torn between him and my fathers son. I never got over my fathers son as he was also amazing to me. The "fucked"'up one here is me. Both guys treated me great. Eli's father till this day after everything I've put him through is willing to take full responsibility of my pregnancy although it's not HIS kid and love this girl as if it were his own. He wants us to work. He wants to fix our relationship. He's never tried winning me back. The distance is starting to affect me as I went through a lot by trying to keep my relationship with the guy from Argentina. I went broke visiting him. I lost my

Job bc too many vacation days. My relationship with my mother shattered bc she saw what I did to my ex and she loved my ex with all she had. Tocher im crazy and unstable. She couldn't believe what I did knowing I had my family together. My ex here has everything together. A stable job, done with school in December and his life is in order. He is a very stable

Man and knows exactly where he's going in life-- not to mention he adores me. My "new" guy whom I'm pregnant by has NOTHING going for him. He can barely afford rent always borrowing money. I went broke over here and has never been able to help me in anything-- I've actually sent him money and in a way I don't blame him bc those countries are just like Colombia-- the jobs suck and they get paid very minimal. He's been out of work for over a month due to a disability but I don't see him trying to go back to work. He just has no ambition to go far in life. All he does is sleep all day and I get it he has no money and he isn't working what else can he possibly do.. he just stays home and literally sleeps all day. He loved to drink And is a smoker. Likes his cigarettes and weed. Nonetheless, he is a great guy to me. Puts me first before anything, respects me above all and truly always made me feel like a queen. When I've visited him everything was nothing but perfect! I am in the process of mending things with my ex and he has been supportive of a pregnancy that isn't even his-- he says the baby has NO fault

In anything and is willing to be her father because he loves me and will be there by my side regardless. I spoke to my new guy and told me I took things too quickly this whole process has destroyed me because deep down I never go over my ex.

He is very sad (the new guy) and has been telling me

He will miss me so much. It's very rare that you find a person who will change someone's life the way I have changed his (he's telling me this) he loves me. He will miss me tremendously, his family will miss me. He is very sad and began tearing. I also did this to him out of nowhere. Things Were just great between us. He has no one in Argentina and I practically kept him "together". He changed his life plans to stick by me. He was supposed to move to Europe in June and threw those plans out the windows to come and move here with me to start our life together. Now I left him heart broken and just thrown in Argentina -- alone. Guys please help me. I truly need advice I haven't stopped crying.

I am torn between the two!!!

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sparklymama
Autumn·Мама двоих (младенец)

How did you meet Argentina? Did you cheat on your ex with him?

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juliannap
Julianna·Мама сына (1 год), беременна (16 нед.)

@sabby, I've spent the whole day with my ex and I just couldn't enjoy the time. I miss him so much and want to be with him. My

New boyfriend wouldn't leave my mind st all. I adore this guy as well. Ugh wouldn't have ever pictured myself in this situation 😔 I can't stop thinking about my current boyfriend

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juliannap
Julianna·Мама сына (1 год), беременна (16 нед.)

@sabby, deep down my gut is telling me to stay with my ex, my sons father. I left him

After I met this guy. There truly

Wasn't any reason. I was the one who screwed up. I met someone and fell head over heels over this new guy and threw my 6 year relationship out the window. We were engaged and everything.'

This is why I'm torn. I know I'm better off with my ex, my sons father I never got over him but st the same time I truly truly care about and do love the guy I'm with now. Ugh.

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moromama

Be with ever who u love and truly love .. follow your heart .. but that child may want to know about it's real father especially if he is from Argentina he or she may want to know there heritage/roots ECT. I didn't have my real dad and missed out on knowing him .

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harleyquinn13
Harley Quinn ·Мама сына-младенца, беременна (9 нед.)

I have to agree with @jsco, while the long distance guy makes you feel good, how is he going to support your little family. Not saying that is the deciding factor, but you have to think about your future.

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juliannap
Julianna·Мама сына (1 год), беременна (16 нед.)

@6plus1pettybetty, my fathers son is my ex. The one that lives here. The one that I was stable with. The one who's willing on taking the full responsibility of the child I'm currently pregnant with that isn't his

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jsco
Jorja Green·Мама сына-младенца

I feel like by the way you talk about Argentina guy you'd be very unhappy spending your life with him. He may make you feel good but if he has no ambition he won't be supporting your family. If you never got over your ex your "falling in love instantly" with the new guy could have just be lust, and something new was exciting.

If you think in your heart being with your ex is what you want then you should do it.

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pettybetty
Oooh! ChicanaCrazy 🤷🏽‍♀️·Многодетная мама (8 детей)

Your father's son?

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