This might sound strange. But if you're having issues with your SO, try writing them a letter and letting them read it when you're not around. I wrote here a while ago about a survey I was doing for a marital therapy class and ended up trying it out myself. We've never had a calmer talk about a highly stressful situation than when I wrote the letter to him and let him read it without me around. We also bounced back from the post talk awkwardness almost immediately. Prior to that, we'd fight and scream and the awkwardness after would last longer than a day. I'm happy about that decision to leave the letter for him so I encourage other ladies to try it out!