Ill just leave this here.
Mamas I really need some advice or just a listening ear, I really don't know what to do, or if I'm overreacting, but my baby's father and I are together, when we met and I got pregnant he was here working, he went back to work out of town after I found out I was pregnant and only comes back once a month, he supports me financially, which was mostly his choice bc he makes good money, we are doing fine on money.. but I'm almost 31 weeks and as I get closer I'm really worried about raising my daughter on my own, he plans to continue to come back only once a month even when she is born and it really scares me, even though I know we will need the money since I won't be working, I still feel like I'm going to be alone raising our daughter, when we talk about it all he has to say is he doesn't see any other way, but he's never lived here, let alone had a job here, and I know of so many places where he could get a job easily when he's here for one of his monthly visits and he just keeps saying that he can't quit his job and move here without having a stable job, and I keep telling him he can,find a job before he quits this one, but yet he's not even trying to find a job when he's here, he hasnt researched job openings or called anywhere, sometimes I feel like he's just comfortable with what is happening and it really hurts me to think about my daughter not having him here, and raising her alone, for one he's never been around a baby, doesnt have a clue how to raise one, and has never even HELD a baby, so I feel like if he only comes back once a month then he's never going to learn how to help with her, let alone know her, and her recognize him when he is here... every time we talk about it, it just turns into an argument and I'm to the point where I feel like I'm wasting my breathe... I just really don't know what to do, I'm scared, and need help and I feel like he doesn't wanna risk anything by moving here when I really need him. am I overreacting??? btw don't get me wrong, I'm beyond grateful for him, with everything he does, and all the financial support he provides, but I've never been "taken care of" (for lack of better words) and I would rather work too, just to have him here to help me and be with his daughter and sometimes I feel like that's not an option to him... it's really depressing me and scaring me. don't be afraid to tell me if I sound like a spoiled bitch or something, I honestly need yalls HONEST OPINION. 😞
My son is one year old and i want him to go back and get use to sleeping in the crib I put him in the crib and all he does is cry and I spoke to his doctor and his doctor said let him cry like in 2 or 3 days he should get use to sleeping on his own has anyone try it ?
Biggest Baby on BB I know I don't have the biggest baby here but I know he's right up there.
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I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how hard this must be, but you definitely shouldn't feel selfish. To better take care of your baby you also have to take care of yourself. I've never been in a situation like this so I don't really have a solution, but I do know you deserve rest without any guilt or shame.
p·
If you feel guilty, would you be able to have someone close to you watch him for one night ? I'm not in your position so obviously I can't say much besides that he needs you right now and God forbid if you get sick from not sleeping and being tired you're gonna be forced to really leave him, he needs a healthy well rested mom so I say take a lil break, good luck and I hope your lil one gets a speedy recovery 🙏🏻
Ashley Sims·
Мама сына-младенца
Thank you guys. I'm just so worried he will be in here by himself crying.. Or woke up by them and cry and them just leave and not get him back to sleep
Jay ·
Can't someone come up there and take care of him if need to be while you get some sleep ?
Ashley Sims·
Мама сына-младенца
@queenaranda everyone works. My husband works 3 jobs, my mom has my brother and sister (6 and 4y/o) and my grandma works a lot..
Jay ·
@mrs.sims, ugh that's tough :/ I'm sorry you have to go thru this girl I was at the hospital with my daughter for 5days when she was a couple weeks old cause she had a fever. 😕
Summer Holmes·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Prayers for a speedy recovery and for you to get a good night sleep
Ashley Sims·
Мама сына-младенца
Thank you guys! I think I'm going to try to go home tomorrow evening and come back up Sunday evening. Someone had the idea that maybe social worker can find a volunteer to stay with him so fingers crossed. I would like to go home once a week to recharge but can't shake the feeling of guilt.
Sara Davis·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (40 нед.)
I would stay and hope that the situation doesn't carry on for much longer 💘 Try and tell yourself this can't last forever, do what you have to now. Ultimately it is your decision 💗💗
Ashley Sims·
Мама сына-младенца
@parkersmommy041617 were at children's mercy so he was moved from the picu to just a regular floor. There is a pull out bed but they're constantly in here doing vitals etc all night. Plus since we are going to be here for a while I've tried to get back to his sleeping schedule as close as I can anyway. He sleeps all night usually but he gets woke up here. They have other patients so they can't be in here but just to check on him. They did say they aren't in here much cause I'm here so if I was gone they would come in to calm him. I'm also waiting to hear if they have found a volunteer to stay with him
Ashley Sims·
Мама сына-младенца
Thank you so much!