Why can't I have grandparents that want to spend time with their grand children, it's just bizarre to me
@sr63665, yeah I totally agree I'm with my kids 99% of the time and would do anything for them xx
@staceyhmfc, yeah exactly they need consistency, like with my daughter she has autism so she finds it hard to let loads of people in which also annoys me at the same time with the grandparent situation they know she finds it hard and that you have to see her regularly but do they make the effort no. But I agree as long as they have their mum and dad and they know that they would do anything for them then in some ways screw not having good grandparents. But there will always be a part of me that wishes that they would care and would to take the time to get to know their grandkids but I guess you can't force them and it's there loss at the end of the day xx
Sometimes I'm envious of people having all these helpers etc but then at the same time that can't always be good for your kids surely to go to different people all the time. Like atleast they will always know we will be there to pick them up etc and never let them down. So in some ways I get super sad and down about ot(low days) but then I have a strong moment and say well I will do my very best to give them what they want and need and never let them feel or go through what I am going through. Or been through. I suppose we are learning through this and knowing how we can be the better person/grandparent eh.xx
@sr63665, exactly you can't choose your family but at least our children have us and that's all they need 😊 x
@staceyhmfc, exactly at least when your a grandparent you have the easy job you can give the kids back to the parents at the end of the day lol. We did do it ourselves exactly and I know my kids are happy they are loved and they know I will be here for them 😊 xx
@sr63665, I don't have my mum too and my dad well he doesn't come round very often to see them and when he does it's short and sweet, I don't know why he bothers sometimes, I just wish my children had grandparents that made an effort x
I know, we rarely get time together and are always knackered between them both and everything else in life. But then atleast you know them inside out and can say yous did it yourself. And therefore when it does come to our grandkids it will be super easy lol because we did the hard part, I hope lol. X
@sr63665, it's horrible isn't it, they should make the effort to come and see their grandchildren xx
@staceyhmfc, thats all they need at the end of the day there mummy and daddies love 😊, that's what I tell my children. I don't feel like there missing out on anything because anything a grandparent can do I can do. I think it's more for me and my partner just to get to have some us time which we hardly get xx
Yeah taking them places you do, or picking them up from school etc. Although I want to be there it would just be nice that others wanted to too :( just have to give the kids double love, we literally have no one it's so shit for them but then they both have me and my husband unconditionally and I suppose that's the greatest we can do 😢 xx
@chesscalouise2, glad to hear I'm not the only one lol x
@staceyhmfc, yeah I know I feel exactly the same I could never not see my grandchildren, I would want to see them all the time. I get so jealous when I'm out with my kids and I see children with there grandparents and they are all over them being a normal grandparent x
Yeah I know, it's just a shame for our kids. I really feel it for them sometimes, but it only makes me realise and know that I will do anything for them and there little ones when they're bigger. I'll be the grandparent I wished they had xx
@staceyhmfc, I'll never get it mine see my children every couple of months and when there here it's like they don't want to be x
Yes me to i was with my son when he was really poorly in hospital and I could never leave him with anyone x