So I just found out I'm pregnant with my second baby on Thursday and I told my mom on Friday after my fiance told his mom and dad and today I was talking with my mom and if baby is a boy I'm not going to have a baby shower but if it's a girl it's going to be a small baby shower and my mom told me that I can't have another baby shower that it's now how it works. So do I have a shower or not? Any advice?
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@williamspoudmommy, I'm the youngest. My closest sibling is 6 years older than me. We're not super close.
@craftsmenswifeandlovingmama thanks. I just hope my mom will come around.
My 10 an 9 year old birthdAys are June 21st an July 18th, I had the same issues with my MIL an these ladies are right they will grow up being the best of friends ,my two do everything together even as much as being in all the same classes at there school because they can not be without each other, best of luck you you guys 😊😊
@db413 thanks. That makes me feel better. My brother and I are 4 years apart and we never ever get along. We aren't even close.
@williamspoudmommy, they may hate each other when they are little but most siblings I know that close in age once they grow up are so close they have a best friend.
@kitcatmeow8383 I told my fiance that I would get some items used from buy and sell sites on facebook that's what i did for a baby swing for my son. And my sister in law has a girl that's almost a year old and so if i need girl clothes she would give me some.
@williamspoudmommy, but in the end. Having 2 children so close together. They will always have a friend and someone by their side
@db413 I told her if it's a boy in not going to have a baby shower but if it's a girl I'd like to have one. So is have to talk to my fiance and she how he feels about everything with this baby. To be honest. When I found out I was pregnant with my son I was thrilled excited and so happy but with this one I felt anger stressed and now guilt because I'm not happy with myself for getting pregnant again so soon. And I can't explain to my son that he's going to have a brother or sister.
I think as long as it's a different gender it's ok. Because most of the stuff you probably have is for one gender.
@kitcatmeow8383 like with just a small group of close family? That's what I was kind of going for
@therurallady I don't know. I just know my mom doesn't like my fiance's mom and she is a little more supportive than my own mother right now and she lives 4 hours a away. And she made it to my first born's birth and stayed for an hour after his birth and left because she had to work that night. My mother in law has made more of an effort that my mom has. I mean my mom will take me to appointments and to the store because I don't drive which is really helpful if her. But but when it comes to stuff like being supportive like with this second pregnancy I just feel torn.
@williamspoudmommy that's not very nice of her. My inlaws were jerks to us for months every time I got pregnant. They stopped talking to us for a while with my younger daughter and mt MIL asked me if I had ever heard of birth control with my youngest. I just laughed. It's funny that they think I care about their opinions on my family. Maybe your mom is feeling something similar?
@therurallady I know. I just feel like it's going to take my mom a little longer to come around with this baby. And my fiance wants to move closer to his family which is 4 hours away from where we live now. And my mom had told me that she will never make a trip like that for a celebration. Like her grandchildren's birthdays. So that's another reason why I'm so like stressed right now.
Yeah. I think it's crazy that people tend to not help as much with the second baby. It's harder with the second and you need just as much support, if not morw
@therurallady my sister in law had one for both of her kids one is 5 in September and the other will be 1 in 10 days. And both were small for her. But I feel like my mom isn't as supportive now as she was with my first
@deafmama16 I want to but I feel like my mom isn't as supportive as she was with my first.
Traditionally, a shower is only for your first, but nowadays people do whatever they want. I had one for my first and second because they were so far apart and different sexes and then I didn't have anymore. But people still sent gifts, which was sweet.
You can have another one if you want to
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@db413 I'm also the youngest. My brother is 4 years older than me we aren't close at all.