@tayler, thank you, thank you, thank you! 😭💕

@caityyy_lynnn Yes feel free to message me anytime you need! ❤

@tayler, I have yet to talk to anyone who has gone through something similar to me, at all... this was truly helpful.. is it okay if I message you later on today.? I'm going to try to sleep since I've been up talking with my family about all of this.

@caityyy_lynnn They can't let your baby go out of state without you or your consent. My first child i had with a man in the army. He was the same way as your husband. He was controlling and very very manipulative. He would tell me when I was pregnant how i would never have the baby and he was gonna take her AS soon as she was born and because he was in the army he had the power to is what he would say. I was young and very scared like you. Everyone around me told me not to worry. When she was born he did sign the birth certificate and I got child support because the army automatically set it up. They did not give him visitation because he was in another state. They told me when he got back that we could go back to court to arrange visitation. So when he got back that's what I did. He is suppose to get my daughter every other weekend and he doesn't . He actually doesn't see her at all.. which is quite sad but it is what it is... I realized from my experience that men are all talk! He seen how hard it is to care for a child when I had her. Any man who threatens to take a child from his or her mother is not any kind of man at all. When we went to court I didn't have a lawyer because I am broke, and you know what? As much as her dad said he would have the best lawyer he didn't have one either! And even if we did, they will not take a child from it's mother. Especially as an infant.

@tayler, even though currently we are married and will be going through a divorce plus all this custody stuff..?

He is only trying to scare you. It doesn't matter how much he knows or how much experience he has or where he works, no one, no father, can take a child from it's mothers without reasonable cause! They would have to prove that you are unfit and incapable of taking care of your child... So unless you do drugs and don't plan on caring for your baby, then he can't do a thing. Just ignore him from now on. Don't respond to him or his nonsense. And definitely don't try and waste all kinds of money getting a lawyer because even if this guy does take you to court, it will only hurt him because they will instantly give you child support and they can't do visitation because he will be out of state.

@vark, I do as much as I can handle. Reading on what to do for the divorce with an unborn baby and how to go about everything stresses me out because my poor daughter isn't even born yet and has to go through a lot.

@caityyy_lynnn and yeah, I'd be hello pissed if someone threatened to take my baby who is still growing in my stomach away once they are born, like furious. I can see why you are so concerned, but do some research to help ease your mind.

@caityyy_lynnn that absolutely does not give him the upperhand..you can probably Google: family law, custody battles, and know much more than him, lol

@vark, he's saying since he's going to school and doing family law, he has the upper hand. I'm just really irritated.

@caityyy_lynnn yah, guys bluff all the time by acting like they are super confident in something they have no idea about. It's really a matter of the facts but he is trying to scare you and he is doing a good job. If it helps do some research on why a baby should stay close to mom early in life. Dad's are important too but especially breastfed babies they have to be near mama

@vark, I am, literally been doing this since I was 4 weeks. But he's confident that he has this and will win. I'm sure he's going to try to use whatever he can against me and will have nothing.

@caityyy_lynnn good. And don't let him get to you. Take care of yourself and your baby

@vark, I have my entire family, my friend, her family.

@sweet_sadie, I really do appreciate it. It's stressful because I don't want to keep her from her dad but I only want him to have visitation..

This guy is disturbed if he is trying to take a newborn away from his/her mom. Very selfish and controlling man that would even consider that. Unless you are unfit, which he would have to prove, I wouldn't be worried. Get a group of people who can vouch for you and would be willing to testify on your behalf in court

Girl u got this. Just stay strong n have tons of faith cuz god don't like ugly. I am here if u need me

@sweet_sadie, oh I don't believe it at all. Its just like since he said he's going to school for family law and has only been in the military for about 2 years, he doesn't have much knowledge like he claims. He's making it out that since he knows things from the books, he can get custody.

Not at all. He is using his words to scare you. Please don't let him brain wash you into saying he can have custody of the baby. Or you saying you won't be able to provide for the baby and you think that it's best for him to get custody of the baby it's a game girl I've been down that road before.

@sweet_sadie, and by the time we go to court, I won't be on disability. The only issue is we are married and currently filling for divorce.. so he has a fair chance but not so fair since he's in the military...

Don't be worried at all. He literally has to prove to the judge that you are unfit mother and can't take care of yourself or the baby.

@sweet_sadie, I literally have so much of what he said and I don't know if I should be worried or not.

Don't believe a word he says. California laws are different but that doesn't mean he will get the baby. Plus he is in the military n he would need a family care plan to help with the baby while he is gone. N why would they honor him full custody if you're there for the baby and he would be gone most of the time anyways doesn't make sense to me