@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.
Make your own breakfast! At what age do you think a child should be making their own breakfast? I have a 10 year old and I think he is perfectly capable of making himself breakfast. It doesn't take rocket science to put some waffles into the toaster, or microwave some pancakes. My husband insists that he needs to have breakfast made for him because if we left it up to him he wouldn't eat enough and it would take him forever.
need suggestions.... So at work we have a drink thief. Any time we put a drink in the fridge it disappears. I swear I know who it is. So far he's taken drinks from everyone that works in the office, we even put a sign to not take anything you didn't pay for and wrote our names on the drinks. The person I think is taking them works out of the office so we never get to see who is drinking them.
Mommas who are separated from their childrens dad. If my sons father is to get our son every other Friday-Sunday, but then tells me halfway through the week he can't take him Friday until Saturday due to taking up an optional shift at work, can I legally tell him he either takes him Friday at his ordered time or doesn't get him? He's constantly cancelling whole weekends or taking our son a quarter of his ordered time. He also isn't following the meets on the order. Almost every Sunday he has him I get a message that he doesn't have a car so I have to get my son, or he tells me i have to run him out there. I'm already having cut hours at work and getting no child support from him since he's been continuously in and out of work.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
heather woodworth·
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@blessedmommabear thank you. We have been talking and I told him we have lots to go to make a plan when it comes to all the kids
heather woodworth·
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@blessedmommabear I agree that's what worries me.
heather woodworth·
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@blessedmommabear that's where my SO and I are at. But leaving him his son gets his way and my 3 get hurt bc like I said they see how happy life is with a man that wants to be in their life and does stuff. We don't live together and my 5 year old will call him to come over and tuck him in at bed time. They have gotten close.
heather woodworth·
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@blessedmommabear they live in a different state and they have had joint talks with him over the phone while on speaker while they both talk to him. They hAvnt been together since he was a baby. So he's never known what it's like for them to be together. Hes been told that they were very unhappy together and its better to have happy parents rather than living in a house with parents that don't get along. But he will come visit and tell us all these storys about how his mom and SO are mean and yell and dissapline. Then goes home and tells them the same about us. This time went home and told his mom that my kids and I beat him daily. When the only time any thing physical happened was when punched my son in the face then after that he Locked me out of my car with him and keys inside it refusing to open it. But told his mom we were lieing and just wanted him in trouble. It's just stressful bc I'm trying to make sure he knows he's wanted and a part of this. He just wont let us in.
heather woodworth·
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@blessedmommabear it has been the other way around. It took my kids a couple months to let him in. And it was newer for them bc their dad and I were separated that long. But my kids saw how different life was now and how much happier everyone was and now they just adore him. He do family activities. I make sure any special outings are when we have his son so he doesn't feel excluded. But he does the same with his mom's SO and they hav3 been together for years. His mom says he treats her other half the same as me.
heather woodworth·
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@drewandvaehsmommy that's what I'm saying. I'm the first that has been this involved. The first serious relationship my so has had since his son was a baby with his mother. He has admitted to lieing and trying to get us to argue to break up. But he went home after this last visit and told his mom so many lies about my kids and I. Horrible lies and my so knows they are but wants his son happy.
Delia·
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Oh no mama he is old enough to stay out of grown peoples business. Unfortunately its your so that is letting him get in the way
heather woodworth·
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@drewandvaehsmommy 9
Delia·
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How old is he?
heather woodworth·
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@drewandvaehsmommy that's what I said. I told him when my kids didn't like him in the beginning I told them I'm in the parent not them and now they absolutely love him.
heather woodworth·
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@vs0221580 if tried everything with him. I'm a step kid so I can relate and I've talked and make sure he's not excluded. I make sure any thing that I planned with my kids is held off until he visits so he can do it as well.
jahnessa garcia·
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His son probably just feels excluded and hurt seeing him around other kids all the time and not him. It's very common actually. Maybe try doing things together with just the three of you every once in awhile so he can get to know you better and most importantly respect you.
Delia·
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So hes going to let his child be the grown up here and tell him what to do? Smh. I personally would tell him either he gets his childs act right or leave. You guys are letting a child ruin your relationship