I have a question for all ypu single mothera to be... Are you ladies giving your baby his last name?
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@xo_sunshinee, I am in a very similar situation... me and the father were never really together. Now that I'm having the baby he actually does not talk to me the way he did before. He wanted me to get an abortion I couldn't do that.. so he "says" he wants to be a father for the baby but so far 100% has not proven that to me. So the child is definitely getting my last name. He may be there at first but you do not know he can up and leave whenever he wants. You on the other hand if you're like me will ALWAYS be by your child's side. So you know your last name will do well for that baby. And one day in the future if he is well or if you even find another man that you marry and takes over the father roll you can always do a name change. Hope that helped xx
Im not a single mother but my child still isn't getting his last name. I believe babies should get the last name of the person they lived inside. The only way my baby is getting my SO's last name is if i also have his last name
Personally if I wasn't with my baby daddy there's no way in hell she'd have his name I almost gave her my last name and we've been together for 3 years now I'm glad she has his name but at the time I was still iffy about it because we are so young
@caityyy_lynnn thanks love... Well if you ever need to chat im here
@xo_sunshinee, I'm new to it too but I remind myself I'm doing this all for my daughter and that pushes me forward. I believe in you. You got this.
@caityyy_lynnn thank you so much... Im so new to all this i appreciate it
@xo_sunshinee, men are so much different than we are. We get to experience this wonderful thing because we grow these babies for 9 months if not longer or shorter. We go through the pretty and the ugly. A lot of times, men don't step up to be dads till after the baby is here because then they realize it's here, it's not going anywhere. You're strong and there are plenty of single mamas who will be here to talk you through anything and everything you need.
@caityyy_lynnn your right... I know i can do it.. It just breaks my heart he heard the same heartbeat i did but its like nothing to him...
@xo_sunshinee, my ex is 20 so I completely understand with age. The hard part is not knowing if they'll be good fathers or not and the even scarier part is giving them the rights to be a father and the not taking it. I don't trust my ex, I don't want him to have joint custody. But I have my reasons. If he starts distancing himself, don't try to reach out to him, let him come to you. You're 8, almost 9 weeks? You still have plenty of time to see his true colors. Take this time and focus on staying healthy and happy for your baby. It's crucial. 😊
@caityyy_lynnn i believe he has the potential too be a good father now will he i dunno... He's not going to my next appt.. He's distance himself since he heard the heart beat... At first i thought he was just scared of me having another miscarriage but i thought it would change after he heard the heartbeat because the first time we never heard a heartbeat ... Then i think maybe it's cause he's young i dunno
@xo_sunshinee, I'm not. We are still married but separated and we are getting a divorce. The main reasons why my daughter isn't getting his last name is because he only wants to be apart of anything when it's convenient for him and by being apart of, I mean he would message me once a month to ask me how the baby was doing. Can't come to any of the doctor appointments because he's constantly in trouble through the army. He feels he's obligated to the last name because he sends me money every now and then, he sent me money about 2 months ago and he will be sending me money tomorrow because I spent all of my food money to put my cat down. He's not going on the birth certificate either because he hasn't proved himself to be a liable father to be in my eyes. At the end of the day mama, it is up to you. If you have reasons not to give the baby his last name, don't. But if you truly believe he will be a good father, there's your answer.
@susanbolivarez very true... So far hes went to the drs appt calls when he feels like it lol
Oh lol. Well if you think he's gonna be there for the baby and be a good father then I would. That's why I gave my son his fathers name. I think that's something that should be earned. He doesn't get that just because you're pregnant with his baby.
It's completely up to you. I gave my kids their fathers last name
My oldest son has his fathers last name and we weren't together when I was pregnant. We got back together about a year after he was born.
@olivia113 yes very similar... So we weren't together but we we're trying to get pregnant fpr abput 5 months finally it happened and the first time i got pregnant he was all in.. He was gunna move in and we were gunna be a family... I had miscarried and then got pregnant the same month again... This time he's such an ass... He says he'll be there and went to the first few drs appts but he doesn't call he doesn't visit now we hardly talk and it seems like i cant talk to him about anything... It sucks i dont know what happen... I think hearing the heartbeat really scared him ...