@purpledpink Okay thanks for the advice I really appreciate it !

@queen_of2, so, when it comes to legal things, it's kind of a pain (I had to go through all that). There is a "standard possession" which is basically what everyone gets, unless negotiated differently. So, he will probably get him for the time period regardless, however, you could try and negotiate how that time period is broken up. My decree says 42 days, not to be broken up in more than 2 sets.... my ex husband only takes him for 30 days and does 2 weeks at a time. There is no guarantee that something from a pedi will get you anywhere, but if they can show that it could be "detrimental" to his development and growth (not like physical growth, more emotional), the judge may be more inclined to break up the period of time.

@purpledpink I wonder would the doctor be willing to write something like that.

@6.5.16 I know it's too long. I will try my best to compromise with him. Hopefully we can work something out as ADULTS and be mature about this. We have to think about what's in the best interest of our son pretty much. He's never been away from me that long. The longest he's ever been away was a week. 😔

Also, it would have to be something stating that for the Childs wellbeing they advise that there be shorter visitations in blocks or something like that. Rather than allllll at one

@queen_of2, just try talking to him and telling him your concerns. Maybe explain it's not about me or you, it's about our son. Ask what kind of arrangement he would be happy with where you could do every other week in July and negotiate from there.

@queen_of2, that I am not sure of. I didn't have to do it, but my friend did.... the thing is, either way, it would have to be amended in court. Hopefully your sons dad will be understanding and break the time up. I always tell my son, if he wants to come home that he just needs to tell daddy. The same goes if he wants to go to his dads he just needs to tell me. From there, you just hope they do the right thing (the dad that is).

@purpledpink what do you mean its still standard possession? So the doctors note won't help ?

@lizabeth.1294 I agree with that. I'm trying to figure out something because it's no way he would even want to be gone that long from me. I'm worried. 😔😔

@purpledpink would I have to take the note from the pediatrician to court ?

My ex is allowed to have my son for the extended possession as well. He takes him in 2 week at a time increments. Honestly, by the 2nd stretch, my son doesn't want to be there any more... you could potentially modify, I would get a note from the pediatrician saying that the schedule is not good for your son. Even with that, it's kind of standard possession. Hope that helps 😘

Maybe even offer him a few days in June or something if he doesn't agree, typically the more you seem like you're compromising the more willing they are to do what you want.

@laciemarie that's what I was thinking too. It is too long in my opinion. Hopefully we can work something out because I can do the one week on and then off.

@lizabeth.1294 I probably could do the one week on and off in July. I just hope that he agrees and that we can try to work something out...

Honestly we just modify the whole thing ourselves. Like for the summer we're supposed to have the boys 7 on 7 off, but if during one of our days she has something we let her have them. Also she works on weekends until late as does her husband so the boys have the option of staying with us or her mom. I don't know how far apart you live but maybe ask if you could do weekly or no-weekly through the summer? That way it's not as long away from your little one.

That is a very long time. Is baby daddy reasonalble? Maby could do one week on and one week off till he gets his 30 days