@energizederica21 i work 3 jobs... 2 as a state caregiver and 1 at an adult family home.... .. :).... Thats good you get some time to yourself.... But he should be giving you some friend time..

@adamsgurl, Yeah he says the same thing but will go out quite a bit still. Likes to blame it on his coworkers keeping him late.

But I do go nuts a time or two but I make sure to take time for myself. That's not my issue at all. It's time away from my kids when they aren't just napping that I don't get..

Time out of the house on my own to meet up with friends isn't something I really get to do without my kid, now kids, in toe. But I have to say, for your situation... Finding time for yourself is really really important. This is when I learn the most about myself inside and out. I'd say I spend an average of 45 minutes of me time a day with my workout and reading time. I do run a business from home but that's whenever I squeeze in the time here and there. What do you do for work that's got you busy all the time?

@raquely, It's not so much stressful as it is hurtful. Like I feel as though I'm not enough fun for him anymore. He is good at talking about things so I know we will figure it out! Thanks mama ❤️

@energizederica21 hum.... My husband just turned 25 last week... . He says hed rather be home with the kids than risk the chance of something stupid happening.. His friends are all drunk immature idiots... Lol... I applaud you for being a stay at home though... . I couldnt do it... My kids drive me absalutly nuts.. Lol.. They are older though.. I love the stage your littles are. After that im over it.. Lol... But i work sooooooo much.. I dont ever have any down time. Im working or at home... It sucks.. Allllooottttt. He should be giving you some me time... You guys will have a better relationship because of it... I myself dont really have any time for me time... But its my choice to work so much

@raquely, he should do and think all these things. But he's 25 and seemingly not mature enough to understand. It doesn't help he's a jealous kinda guy. But you'd think after 5 years, I'd get cut some slack. I feel like I'm gunna lose my mind on a pretty regular basis, it's really not even about me getting to go out and act like I have no responsibilities for one night. It's being told "I'll see you later" or "I'll be back" or "hopefully this doesn't take too long" and then he doesn't come home until 11,12,1,2, or even 6am. I feel totally lied to. And his justification is that he didn't know he was going to be out all night. I could break out in tears just thinking about all the times this has happened just since having our last son 9 weeks ago.

@brownsugarluv, thank you for sharing that. I have no issues with him going out with his buddies and letting off work steam. In fact, I seriously encourage it because I know he enjoys those times. But it happens so often...on top of his long hours that I don't want to become ghosts to each other. And he does spend quality time with his kids but obviously not as much as I think would be normal for our situation. I am starting to resent him and actually, I'm really up front about it. I love being a stay at home mom more than anything but I'm a big fun lover myself and even once every two months guaranteed would be like a million dollars to me. But regardless of what I want, he just tells me he's sorry and repeats himself. I'm not sure I can change what's going on.. it's gotta be him. And it's not like I'm worried about cheating or anything like that....but I still feel abandoned.. Thank you so much for the good luck! I'm gunna need it!

You've got to talk to him about how you feel. That's not right or fair. It can make you resentful. Not to mention it sounds like he's taking advantage of the situation. It's one thing to agree for a designated worker parent and a SAHP. It takes both parents to raise kids. He should step up as a husband and father so everyone is happy. It's all about finding mutual ground.

Good luck hun.