So before I fell asleep, my bf was trying to have sex, i said no. I fell asleep then woke up with his hand down my underwear. I tried to move his hand and told him to stop and he said "just let me" and wouldnt move at first. I had to forcefully move it. At first he said he didnt know I was sleeping then said he thought I would like it. I was upset and he got mad that I was upset and threw a fit that we dont have sex enough. There are other times he will try to touch my boobs and stuff and I will try to move his hand and he wont let me and says "its ok"... am I in the wrong or is he?
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I dont think there is any working anything out. We had tons of issues before this and this was the last straw. :(
No matter how long you're with a man consent is still consent and he should respect that rather than trying to force things on you.. being together isn't an excuse to force yourself on your partner. I'm so sorry he's doing that.. I went through the same thing with one of my exs, when I explained that was still considered rape he got all upset and threw a fit. Hopefully you can work something out with him. But definitely don't feel like you're in the wrong in anyway.
Ok, Im glad you all are saying its not okay and not that im over reacting.
He cant have a talk. He got mad and threw a fit and went to the couch. He is terrible at communicating. He told me i was stupid and to shut up and asked why I dont just leave him.
He's in the wrong! Doesn't matter if he's your boyfriend or not. Just because he is doesn't make it ok for him to force himself on you. Rape is rape. You need to be consenting. If he don't like it to bad. Maybe you guys need to talk about the situation.
Not too long ago he made a comment like "i will just touch you in your sleep" but said he was kidding...
I honestly think a lot of women have to have this argument with their significant others. Which is really sad
@ellieinmybelly, he is all mad at me for being upset. He went to the couch cuz we "only have sex when its convenient for me". Sorry in my sleep isnt convenient and its annoying thats all you ever want
He is wrong. I have been married for 7 years and my husband would never cross that line. I would be very upset and feel violated. It's not ok. Doesn't matter how long you have been together, consent is needed. If the role was reversed and my hubs wasn't in the mood I would respect that.