@natascha1035, I am a Christian and someone else told me about 5 languages of love. I've been looking for it but haven't found it yet

@garber1979, she was a mutual friend but now I see more of a "friend" to him instead of me.

@melamomma3, where that girl lives? There's another woman involved?

@garber1979, I know and I'm so grateful. I just found out that that he still wants to move to the town where that girl lives. The only places I can go are 15-20 miles from there. My kids will have to travel that far just to see their dad. I'm thinking that it's not what I think this is. I'm going to continue to do me and work on me but it does hurt. I'm now second guessing everything. Some of my prayers may not be answered the way I want them to be but I know there is a plan in place and I just have to give it all over to God now.

@melamomma3, just know that you're never alone, emotionally! You have a lot of momma's here supporting whatever your decision and whatever you're going through. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@garber1979, thanks. I will. I'm thinking the same things sometimes. I'm just so confused about what he wants and what I want. I want to be with him but there is a part of me that wants us to just be done. I've been praying hard for God to give me the strength to do what is in His plan. I've prayed about him leaving, him staying, and me getting right with Him and myself.

I don't intend to sound mean or ignorant, but believe me, I've been in your shoes in the past with my ex. That's why he's my ex now! When you take those vows, God doesn't expect you to erase the meaning of those vows when things get tough. Why do some men think it's okay to play mind games with their women, and slowly rip their hearts apart? If he wants a trial separation, he should have done that before you took vows, made commitments, and involved children. You don't get to just start over like nothing ever happened and pretend that you're not hurting someone else! My ex did this sort of crap to me twice. He knew he could pretty much say anything and I would agree because I didn't want to break out family apart. The second time he did it, I started to fall into his emotional abuse again, but then I wised up and booted him out the door, for good! Don't sit around and wonder what his intentions are and worry yourself sick. Be straight up with him and find out why he's wanting to separate, but then he's wanting to do all of these nice and romantic things for you. You're either committed to your marriage or relationship, or you're not at all. There's not supposed to be an in-between. Not only is that emotional to you, but kids pick up on a lot more than us parents realize because they're just better at keeping their feelings built up inside. Best of luck girl. Please keep us updated on how you and the kids are doing through this. I'll be sending you lots of prayers!

@melamomma3 I would get the child support and alimony agreement filed witb the courts asap. Things could unexpectedly get messy.

Go to couples counselling/therapy BEFORE either of you make any choices.

@darannads, it will be a trial separation. I have been working on myself regardless if he wants to work it out or not. Yes the kids will live with me and visit him whenever they want. He wants us to find apartments close together so that the kids can come over anytime. He will pay me child support and alimony. No he didn't want too at first but maybe now it's different

@melamomma3, but do you think living separately will make things better?? Why not try marriage counseling?? And are you guys gonna separate the time with the kids?? You gotta think about all of that cause it really sounds like a seperation

@darannads, ^true @melamomma3, I would sit down and talk with him. So you two are on the same page

@darannads, I know. The sad part is we both have to move out. My uncle is selling the house we are in now.

Me & my husband are on the verge of divorce... I hope your husband is trying to do the right thing by starting over... but sometimes leaving the home only opens doors for other things!