So a lot happened last night and this morning. He got here at a fairly decent time last night and we sat down and talked. I was weak and begged him to stay which didn't work. So I put up my wall and started to shield myself from the pain. We started talking about stuff and he informed me that him and his "friend" who is a girl were telling each other that they loved each other and after he moved out he wanted to start a relationship with her. So I told him that my 2yr old would not be coming to visit because I don't want her around this girl. She doesn't understand yet. I told him that coparenting with his job and schedule would be difficult because he works most weekends. So when I started to talk about putting up my shield and how I needed to be strong for the girls he told me to come sit by him. I did. He told me to not put up my shield and that he was torn. He wants his family but he also has feelings for her. I told him he can't have both. He had to choose . He chose us. He texted her and told her that he was going to try to make it work with me. We had sex twice last night and this morning. We get up today and he seems to be trying a little but he acts like someone died. Did I do the right thing by taking him back or should I just try and go out on my own?? He has been my rock, my shelter, and is the father of my children. We have been together for over 14yrs. I don't want to just throw all that away.
Комментарии
@nmoreno, she was supposed to be my friend and then this happened. She was texting me asking how my kids were doing and all that kind of stuff. It's not that I don't want my youngest around her it's his work schedule that keeps me from wanting her there. My 13yr old is different because she can take care of herself but Squish can't.
If you love him let him go. If you see that it crushes him to stop talking to this girl he told you he has feelings for then let him go be with her. You don't want to be with someone that doesn't have feelings for you anyways. Its gonna be miserable. You're being kind of selfish by telling him you don't want your kid around her just so he'll stay with you. Is there some specific reason you dont like this girl?
@brookemmoore, thanks. I just keep praying for God to give me the strength to do what is needed.
In my own personal opinion, based on experience, you will never be happy with him after this regardless of whether he cut it off for real or not. The trust is gone and a marriage without trust does not work. It makes life miserable. I do wish you the best though. Only you can decide what's right
@bellesmomma, I'm just really struggling with whether or not I'm really doing the right thing. My youngest cried for almost 30 minutes when he left last night. I know sleeping with him so soon was rushing it but when he hugged me and said he was sorry for everything I still feel that spark. I just couldn't help myself but to have amazing sex lol. I just really wish I wasn't so in love with him anymore.
@dmm1976, me too. He doesn't want to go to therapy because he doesn't want someone to tell him how to raise his kids and how to be a husband. I know he loves me and his kids.
@beebaby, he had me write the text message to her from his phone breaking it off with her. He told me that he didn't sleep with her because he respected me more that to go that far. She also texted back this morning respecting his decision and that she was sorry for letting it get further than it should have. I'm not 100% sure if this is what I want now. I still so in love with him that to even think about all this sends me into a panic attack. He has been showing me today that he wants to make it work.
That's so hard, you guys have been together a long time. Can you get into counseling? I'd tell hubs that if he truly wants his family you will both have to go-to therapy to figure out why it all went South to begin with. Hugs. I hope he's serious.
Ok, so my friend is wanting to get pregnant but..... Her fiancé does not want kids, at lease for another 3-5 years he said... so she came up with the idea to have me pee on a stick for her and show it to him so that he’ll be comfortable with not wearing a condom and finishing in her.. basically the whole idea is to make him think she’s pregnant already...... so I do this favor for her or should I tell my girl to chill?
He and my husband are friends through us and he’s going to invite him over...
So mamas I need advice. We take our son to the gym with us and they watch him in their kid care. Well this will be the third time that we’ve gotten called in there to get him because he’s supposedly doing something we’ve never seen or heard of him doing. When I went in there, the girl was holding him, he was in tears and so happy to see me and wanted me to pick him up. I told her I wanted to see him doing what he was supposedly doing. He went on to play with a toy nicely so I told him to come to...
So over this feeling!
Ever since I've had ds, OH and I have fought my mother on not wanting to give ds a dummy just cause we don't like them and find he self soothes. For the past three times my mother has had him, she has gone against our rule and given him a dummy and of course I spoke to her about it (that's all my knowledge on how many times she's done it). On Sunday we celebrated my stepfathers birthday and due to OH working I had to do it alone which isn't the thing that bothered me. The...
I love how I repeatedly told my father in law not to let my daughter root through the toy box because she doesn’t want anything out of it anyway and he keeps picking her up and taking her to the toy box no matter how many times I tell her no and tell him she doesn’t even want anything out of there anyway. At first I told him “only let her get one toy” so she picks one up and he is still holding her over the toy box then tries to put her over the baby gate so she can grab more. I’m sorry but you ...
Opinions! I’m pregnant with my ex boyfriends third child it is our second together. Our daughter is 3, we split up a week before I found out I was pregnant. He doesn’t want to fix things. And I’ve been trying to sorta ask him to come home but found out some news that completely broke my heart. I sorta started to talk to someone that doesn’t live in my state but works around my area sometimes.. we spent some time together while he was here and he will be back in 3 weeks.. am I doing something wro...
@melamomma3 he does know that isn't what a therapist job is right? He has issues that he might not even know about. He should probably goto a session on his own first to see that therapy isn't about someone telling you how to live, it's about discovering yourself.