Girls, I am aware my man has been fucking around on me for months but haven't physically caught him in the act but he's been on dating sites pornhub, also he's made a fake snapchat and has exchanged pictures and other things from there.
I have caught him on these sites and I actually had some of the girls he's contacted allowed me on their snapchat to talk to him and pretend to be them. Let's just say he's taught me how to play the game, he doesn't know I know, Iv known since November, and I have literally had conversations with "him" without him knowing it's me.
When I have brought it up before and mentioned it he gets defensive even though I know the truth. When I literally exchanged pictures with him on this girls snapchat and talked to him I asked him about it a week and a half later and he looked me right In the face and lied to me.
I know he lies to me, and I'm aware of it.
He doesn't know that I have literally had conversations with him, and have talked sexual to him pretending to be these girls.
I have been on two of the fake emails and it's all dating site after dating site, lists miles long, porn accounts etc. he doesn't know I got into the emails, I pretend I have no clue.
I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, and give him a chance to be a good father and change for the baby.
This absolutely doesn't mean he will be faithful, he's aware I know of some of it, he makes excuses or he cries and promises to change, he is never out late and he's constantly working I have access to his work log on when he clocks in and out and how long he works for. He's at work when he says he is. I'm just confused on when he's having time to do these things. Even if it's as harmless as talking. It's still cheating, I'm not sure if I can act "dumb" much longer, and how much more I can handle.
I love him to fucking DEATH but he has some commitment issues, and I do not. We are on separate pages and I don't see that changing any time soon... I just needed to vent. I know it makes me sound weak staying with him, and maybe I am weak. I can't bring myself to stop loving him even after all he's done, in my mind, he doesn't do it to hurt me. He's messed up and has some issues, but it also doesn't mean it's right to do.
I'm so lost, so hurt and so torn apart. It's been months Iv known about this and you know, I can't keep pretending. I have to let it out. I don't want my baby girl to hate me for this, but I'm contemplating on whether I stay knowing what's going on, or I go. Shared custody, and do my own thing
I want a life with this man, the ONLY thing we fight about is the cheating other than that we are compatible I feel.
I know it's a boy thing, he is still learning. I am still learning.
I want to learn together, but I can't make excuses anymore.
I have many decisions I need to make here shortly, I am unaware of where to start.
I'm broken.
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At the end of the day it's your decision that will outweigh the relationship your a mother and a fiancé and if he really loves you and he see that your serious about leaving him he will completely change not half change. But remember people don't change unless they want to
I have been told my whole life that I'm an "old soul". He's taught me quite a bit about myself which is why I don't want this to go to waste. In a way some can say he's "wasting" my time, but in the "waste" of time we made a beautiful child, I helped him graduate high school, I kept on his ass about getting his first job now he works full time he also got his license and his first car, all with my help of staying on his ass. Hounding him like a damn animal and he hates it but secretly he appreciates my hounding as it's gotten him extremely far. I love him to death and I feel this baby will just melt his heart, and POSSIBLY change things, but knowing what I know about what's happened so early on in our relationship I am worried he will see I am staying and not take it seriously.
I need him because, out of ALL the fucked up things he's done, he's taught me so many valuable things about myself and about him and men in general, he also was there for me in the beginning when I was withdrawing from drugs, he motivated me to graduate, he's awesome. But also not so awesome. I guess I feel I'm making excuses for him but at the same time I see potential, and this is hard for me to let go. @allyk.xmommy,
You're 19 years old? You talk like you have the wisdom of someone much much older. I NEVER suggest making it work for the kids. I have divorced parents and it wasnt untill they split they that out lives were happy. But you do love him, and have gone this long trying. I would print it all out, come out as who you are on all the snaps and emails. Take a picture of ALL the proof. Set it infront of him. Then tell him, he get rid of data on his phone, you either share social media together or you get access to all his accounts. He gets rid of the porn and dating sites. And if he does all this, you will work on things. One slip up and it's over. This is just my advice. Take it or leave it. You seem EXTREMELY strong. Good luck
We are engaged, I said yes to his proposal, knowing this was going on, I do know my worth. I have a bad habit of putting others before myself, he has accomplished SO MUCH being with me, I mean so much and I know he wouldn't of been able to do it alone. I think he does it because flirting is his way of feeling validated and it's a very little boy thing to do, but boys do it. He wants to support us to the fullest extent and I know he will be an awesome dad and he's changed a lot in this past month. But I know the sex sites and fake accounts won't stop, so I guess I do have to put the pros and cons together @azaleasmommy,
Are you guys married ?
And why not start with the pros and the cons. Would you rather be with someone that talks to females and watches porn instead of going to you? You just have to think about it and the main focus here should be your baby. We love these men but at the end of the day do they really love us ? They'll show us if they did through actions not words. Your man is saying one thing and doing another therefore he is not trust worthy. You gotta look at that stuff too
Ugh Ive been throigh this mine cheated before i got pregnant while I was pregnant and after, we moved two hrs away and he was on social media cheating still i was going to leave hom it ended bad, with police involved, hes incarcerated wont get out til a yr later . Actually when we went to visit my mom over a weekend, he was showing her a pic on his phone when we left she texted me saying you need to talk to him and see wtf he wants cause when i was lookking at the pic a gorl was messaging him she didnt tell me what it said. He still deniwd it. Even when I have proof he denies it. Supposably hes going to change now or w.e but im actually getting use to not having him around i just have a feeling we wont be together for very long after he gets out