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Mary Love
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I'm so tired of dealing with my son's father. Why would you lie about texting me about coming to see him when I don't…

I'm so tired of dealing with my son's father. Why would you lie about texting me about coming to see him when I don't have a single text from you at all this week asking to see him. Then out of all the people you ask to ask me, you ask my mother!!!! I'm just through. I'm not feeling too well today so my anger is just turning into tears. I just keep looking at my son and say he didn't ask to be here. I love him so much and I'm trying to keep him from getting disappointed in the long run. I'm just need some encouraging words or anything to keep me sane.

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manismommy1207

Mary Love

Мама двоих (младенец)

@nikbutts757, I wish I wasn't dealing with it.

nikbutts757

Nicky Butts

Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна

@manismommy1207, oh honey that is so much! I can't even imagine how you feel. I can't believe you are dealing with this. I'm so sorry.

manismommy1207

Mary Love

Мама двоих (младенец)

@nikbutts757, yes. I went and filed for custody Monday. I just have to wait for my court date. He will not show up because he is a fugitive and on the run. He was messing with mom while we was dating so I'm in a messed up situation. I can't get over it because I feel so disrespected and disappointed in both of them. I'm trying to move away from where we are so I can get my kids away from them. I have a daughter but her dad is more supportive of me and my decision. As I write this I'm crying because it hurts so much.

nikbutts757

Nicky Butts

Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна

@manismommy1207, I'm really so sorry because I know your story and frustration. Same scenario for me expect he was involving my Dad and my Dad always sided with him. That part hurt the most. I can't tell you to get over it. I can only tell you that it will get better. It will take time. It's been 11 years since my son saw his father and he's 13 now. It's not easy but it's not impossible. Every time you get frustrated pray. Not about your frustration but pray and thank God for your son and tell God how awesome he is. Tell him how blessed you are to have your son. That gives you something else to focus on while you are dealing with it. Do you plan to involve the courts?

manismommy1207

Mary Love

Мама двоих (младенец)

@nikbutts757, I'm sorry that this is long. I've been dealing with a lot from him and it's messed up that I had to deal with it. I'm a nice person I don't deserve any of the crap I get from everybody.

I don't expect anything from him. It's just that he says that he wants to be in his life but turns around and acts like he doesn't care about him. My son doesn't know him. I'm getting blamed for the reason his father is acting like this because I won't let my son go with him anywhere. My close family and friends know why I won't let my son go with him. He just keeps spreading lies and it's irks my nerves. I'm sitting in my room like why is my mom texting me asking why I haven't answered text messages from him when he hasn't text me at all. Then I'm like why does he keep putting her in between everything that has happen between us. It's a lot more behind this. I'm just done with him and his bull@$!!. He has a older son and he is barely in his life.

He is deadbeat and he will never do anything for my son.

nikbutts757

Nicky Butts

Многодетная мама (5 детей), беременна

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I dealt with this also with my oldest son. I suggest that you stop expecting things from him, then you won't ever be disappointed. When he does stuff it will be a surprise. You are giving him too much of your energy. He has too much control over your emotions. He doesn't deserve your emotions baby girl. Things will get better. Take back control.

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