@nikbutts757, I wish I wasn't dealing with it.

@manismommy1207, oh honey that is so much! I can't even imagine how you feel. I can't believe you are dealing with this. I'm so sorry.

@nikbutts757, yes. I went and filed for custody Monday. I just have to wait for my court date. He will not show up because he is a fugitive and on the run. He was messing with mom while we was dating so I'm in a messed up situation. I can't get over it because I feel so disrespected and disappointed in both of them. I'm trying to move away from where we are so I can get my kids away from them. I have a daughter but her dad is more supportive of me and my decision. As I write this I'm crying because it hurts so much.

@manismommy1207, I'm really so sorry because I know your story and frustration. Same scenario for me expect he was involving my Dad and my Dad always sided with him. That part hurt the most. I can't tell you to get over it. I can only tell you that it will get better. It will take time. It's been 11 years since my son saw his father and he's 13 now. It's not easy but it's not impossible. Every time you get frustrated pray. Not about your frustration but pray and thank God for your son and tell God how awesome he is. Tell him how blessed you are to have your son. That gives you something else to focus on while you are dealing with it. Do you plan to involve the courts?

@nikbutts757, I'm sorry that this is long. I've been dealing with a lot from him and it's messed up that I had to deal with it. I'm a nice person I don't deserve any of the crap I get from everybody.

I don't expect anything from him. It's just that he says that he wants to be in his life but turns around and acts like he doesn't care about him. My son doesn't know him. I'm getting blamed for the reason his father is acting like this because I won't let my son go with him anywhere. My close family and friends know why I won't let my son go with him. He just keeps spreading lies and it's irks my nerves. I'm sitting in my room like why is my mom texting me asking why I haven't answered text messages from him when he hasn't text me at all. Then I'm like why does he keep putting her in between everything that has happen between us. It's a lot more behind this. I'm just done with him and his bull@$!!. He has a older son and he is barely in his life.

He is deadbeat and he will never do anything for my son.

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I dealt with this also with my oldest son. I suggest that you stop expecting things from him, then you won't ever be disappointed. When he does stuff it will be a surprise. You are giving him too much of your energy. He has too much control over your emotions. He doesn't deserve your emotions baby girl. Things will get better. Take back control.