I just... I don't know what to do or say anymore. My daughter's only 4 days old and my husband is just not understanding whatsoever. My MIL came and got her today for a little while because she didn't sleep hardly any last night. Well, she asked if she could keep her tonight and I almost said yes to sleep but I just don't want to be away from her that long yet. Plus my mom is coming tomorrow to help with her. He said well my god you keep complaining about how tired you are, you shouldn't have said no. I said well I'm not ready to be away from her for a whole night yet, I already miss her. He said well don't wake me up complaining tonight when you're tired. Idk what to do. I just wanna leave and take her away bc I'm so stressed out already and constantly crying and he's making it so much worse on me.
Your gonna have to sit down and chat with him and tell him whats up! For real girl! He helped make the baby he has to help diaper... Feed. And share the load or you might as well be a single parent. How selfish of him to react this way! @annaerandolph tell him! You just had your baby you carried for 9 months! Your hormones and your body has been through so much! Him watching you go through that is not all that bad. Trust me. Make him grow up!
@bekahbrooke81, is right on point! and be careful with your words also, words hurt and I said some pretty mean things to my SO that I can't take back, but I am deeply sorry about it.
that's normal. I remember one time my baby didn't fall asleep until 8am. They are going through growth Spurs so sometimes they are going to have moments where they are fuzzy. My SO sometimes gets like that but I tell him, "look he's just a baby who didn't ask to be here please be patient with him. He's trying to communicate with us and we have to figure it out".
What you're going through is definitely very real and men just don't get it. I have two under two. My husband is the sweetest guy, but with each baby we had this type of argument. I gave in on the second baby and let my grandmother take care of her for a night when she was just a week old. Hormones rock your world at that point and you feel so helpless. Hang in there because it does get better. Get rest when you can and enjoy these precious moments with your baby. Oh and don't take what he says all that seriously...he's coping with all of the changes just like you are.
@ingridm89, I'm not sure.. She doesn't really just cry for no reason. She woke up a looot last night though. She stayed awake from 4:40 to 6. She gradually ate her bottle but then she just kept crying and would not go to sleep lol. Sometimes she'd cry and sometimes she'd just lay there wide awake lookin around.
we are very emotional after. trust me I was in your shoes. I completely understand. As far as baby every baby is different. Do you think your baby might be colicky? you can use gripe water to sooth her.
@ingridm89, yes I just keep crying and I know I'm just thinking through hormones. It's just hard. Yes he goes back to work Monday. He got to take off all this week. @twinmommabellahali, I told him I wouldn't care for her to do that and I know she wouldn't care to but idk if I'll ask..
it will get better. don't make any decisions on your emotions at the time. remember your raging with hormones right now. is he working right now?
@tysmom1017, that's what I told him :/ I said I would love for her to keep her tonight, it's just way early for me to be away from her that long. I would love to get a full nights sleep but I'd just miss her too much. His mom completely understands bc she didn't figure I would let her come get her for a few hours today. I told him I just wish he would try to understand how I'm feeling and that I would miss her too much right now. @junesmommy_15, yes that's how I feel. My mom lives 5 hours away and she's coming up for a week to help me with her when my husband goes back to work.
She's still young. I probably wouldn't allow her to go anywhere either. Someone being there is great though.
I think he may feel as if you just don't want HIS mom to take the baby. Sit down and talk to both of them. Explain the separation anxiety. It's too early. As a woman and mother she should understand. Thank your husband for trying to get his mom to support you but be open about how his approach and tone makes you feel.
@annaerandolph. Summer is 5 months old and has never been more than 5 hours away from me. And NEVER over night