So I got a message last night saying this girl is filing against my boyfriend for child support becuase he has a 3 year old daughter... His whole family knew this was a possibility and no one told me... Been living with him for a year and have a son of our own that he doesn't really financially or physically help with... Am I the only one that would be pissed over this message and not knowing when him and his whole family knew it was possible?
Would y'all leave?
@odalys yeah everyone including him in his family knew but didn't mention it becuase I didn't need to know... We live in my boyfriends parents house... We have a 3 month old... He helps his parents out with their business but doesn't make really any money... He really doesn't do anything with his son unless I yell at him he gets mad if I wake him up to watch him while I shower or run somewhere.
Oh yeah, my bd never even knew and never that it could be a possibility because it was a 1night stand.she decided to tell him by sending him letters for childsupport 2years later!! He was like thats not mine! I was like well you're not gonna pay for someone that isnt yours so do the test, he did . And sadly it was his
@odalys no it was when he loved in Texas they were dating for months to a year I believe and when he moved up here is when she told him so he's always denied it and his whole family knew but never mentioned it that this would be a possibility ... And he still denies it and says he's not worried and mommy and daddy will get him out of this til or get him to pay a loser child support amount.
Depends if it happened when you were in the pic. Something kinda like this happend to me with my bf/bd of 3years, but he didnt do it when he was with me, so I cant really be mad but In a way I am because this bitch is trying to make his/our life miserable. Shes so jealous and wish she could be in my position. It was only a one night stand at that, a year before he met me
I would suggest, taking some time and thinking about it. Do what will be best for you and your little one. Life is to short not to be happy.
@mama_banks exactly. And I was already on the edge of leaving now Idk what to do.
If you in a relationship and have a child together then yes you did need to know. There shouldn't be secrets when your dating/married to someone.
@mama_banks he says I didn't need to know that's why. I tried sitting him down
Oh wow, they do look alike. It sucks this was hidden from you. I would sit him down and be like is there anything else you haven't told me about.
@mama_banks he said he will do DNA test if he's served with papers... But until then he's denying her but she looks just like my son when she was his age
I would be mad if my husband had a child I didn't know about. I knew about my stepdaughters before we even started dating. If he didn't tell you cause he's not sure if it's his or not tell him to get a DNA test.
I would be livid beyond livid quite frankly. If my husband had another child and didn't tell me there would be war in my household. I would likely leave till he got the situation handled. The fact you have to ask for him to do anything for your child sounds more like a baby daddy not a significant other.