I don't know what to do. I'm freaking out. Just found out my fiancé lied to me about something really big, and really horrible! And I'm literally losing my mind. Shaking, feel like I'm gonna get sick. I don't know what to do! I don't know how I'll ever forgive him but I don't know how I'll leave him!!!! F$&@
He still have withdrawal..... He had a bad one maybe 3 months ago and it's was like I had a tornado threw my house he literally left to his mom's she came and got him and was like did he tell u I'm like what and she told me I'm like wow ..........he haven't had none from drinking and that's good but the dabbing Na I pass ......I just hope u GEt threw this bcuz I no hard for u it's hard for me I just wish nen can really no how us woman feeling have us like girl I be around here flipping the fuck out but u no what I do I throw it in his face ......like the smoking pot I tell him how would u feel if I smoke and roll a blunt and start smoking like if u don't understand that then there no me and u NOPE NO TRYING AT ALL
Thanks @ms.jackson, girl I hear you! With the food thing, it's like all he does sometimes is consume and I can't keep up and I'm not getting any help here anyway! Then he's gonna take a break from life apparently and the stress is the last thing I need. I don't think it'll put me into labor early or anything but we have been thru this before, last April and I did have a miscarriage at 16 weeks it was the most horrible experience of my life and I believe it was caused by stress :( I don't know what to do because I love him and I WANT this life with him so bad and I WANT to forgive him but I don't know if I can because I know now that he's just not trustworthy so what's the point??? How is your man going thru withdrawal from crystal still after a year? U mean he just has no energy or what? Sometimes I think these guys think we are stupid!!
I'm sorry that I had to come across this post u never alone .....I'm going threw same thing I don't no about using but my husband was a drinking and now it's the dabbing point I told him to stop or I'm done and actually..... That I no of been sober for almost a month ....but still I trust him but I check his breath every now and then but I check his breath if I feel like he been drinking .....but that dabbing like he said he was gonna stop Sunday until this day he still doing it he so high today that he at Dane ner 15 times literally... I'm like no Idc how bad u got the munchies I went grocery shopping I didn't get no help like this food not here to help your munchy habbit this here for us to eat long story short it's sicking everybody react differently off of it he like not attractive when doing the dad drink whatever it's not trust when u have a user I went to a class codependent and I learned a lot from it and it's hard bcuz he used to do crystal before I met him and yes he say he been clean for 2 years but he have withdrawal s and that's bad still.....it's from the dabbing and drink he doing now I'm being patient with him I pray I take it day bye day but pray about it don't stress your baby out its hard to leave bcuz this be his first but I tell u life to short to be stuck with someone who don't want nothing in life good luck mom and I wish u the best
Thank you so much. I'm here if you ever want to talk. It's helped tonight, knowing I'm not alone. And just being able to get it out. Thank you
@megsandbabes my husband when he makes excuses makes me sick..he used hours before he left to rehab I was tortured inside crying like crazy full of emotions ...like how can he do this .? Last hours he spends with us fucked up....how selfish....users are sick n selfish...n if they dont have a good enough reason they will get fucked up when life gets tuff...you are preggers so you feel obligated not to use...n it's just motherly instinct to protect your babies... I'm glad my hubby is locked up in rehab.. He needed to be babysat... N I had no energy anymore.. It's the hardest thing I've had to endure...I just hope n pray I'm not wasting my life..I think knowing he will have 5 years probabation is helping me wait cause if he uses while out of rehab they will lock him up n if he is dumb enough to go there I'm done. It's hard every situation is different. But sending my prayers to you and your family my heart goes out to you.
Omg. I don't know what to do!!!! I was hoping you would see my post only cuz you've mentioned your husband is gone in rehab and I've literally thought to myself idk how she does it??? I want to hurt him so bad!!!!!!! I want to leave him because I know I'll never be able to trust him but at the same time I don't want to because this is supposed to be our fucking family!!!!! I'm soooo hurt I'm just sitting here sobbing and I don't know what to do honestly I just don't know how to get through this. You must have so much resentment against your husband. At least he's trying to show you he wants to change. . That's good.... I feel like mines ruined this now I can't even look back at my baby shower and be happy I don't know how he could do this to me? He said he had a moment of weakness. Wtf??? If the situation were reversed that shit sure wouldn't fly!!! You don't get to be "weak" when you have a whole family relying on you!!!!!!!! I just don't even know how to think or feel
@megsandbabes I feel your pain ....I'm not a addict but my husband is and is in rehab for a year court appointed I feel cheated so bad ...sometimes I don't know if he is worth waiting for...... cause of the lies I feel like I could never trust him ...n bs he has put us threw...but he swears it's different this time I'm terrified... I'm having our son in 3 weeks 😂
We are in recovery.. we are both addicts and have been living a clean and sober life.. I just found out that on the day of my baby shower he relapsed 😰 . It feels like I got cheated on, because there's this sick feeling of jealousy, I'm furious because he lied, and made me feel guilty/crazy when I asked him about it because I could TELL something was up! And mostly I'm terrified, because I want SO badly to be able to forgive him, but how?! How will I possibly trust him??? I know that I won't. I KNOW that this will ruin us. I'm supposed to deliver our baby boy (that we planned) any day.. and I can't even LOOK at him. He's my best friend and he betrayed me. I feel like I'm going to die.
@megsandbabes glad I could be of help it's healthy to vent ....n understand your not alone..I'm here if you ever need or want to talk