Okay I need some opinions or advice to feel better about this situation. Before I go into detail,…
Okay I need some opinions or advice to feel better about this situation. Before I go into detail, please don't make me feel even worse about feeling the way I do about it. I just need someone to talk to. So my husband has a 4 year old daughter with his ex wife. There are times when I consider things appropriate and mention that she shouldn't do those things. I would never think that my husband would ever do anything to her, obviously I have two daughters with him. Anyways, there are sometimes when she will straddle his legs and rub herself back and forth on him. And then there are times like tonight where she sits directly on his crotch area. I don't feel comfortable with this but maybe I'm just overthinking it. If my girls were doing it, i would say something too. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Delia·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Our 1 year old does that to my leg. He doesn't know what it means. He just thinks its fun. Maybe her mom lets her do it and lifts her legs like shes flying? Does your husband ever move her away from his crotch and put her on his leg?
Rachel Alexandria·
Мама троих детей
No not ever. I just got out of the shower and walked in to her sitting on his crotch area... I just thought it was weird. Maybe if she wasn't getting older I wouldn't feel like it was inappropriate. @andrewsmommy,
Delia·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I mean to me the older she would get I would think it's inappropriate and your husband should move her go his knee. But thats me. Maybe its just their bond? Are they very close?
Rachel Alexandria·
Мама троих детей
No not really. She honestly never wants to come here. She always cries every single time she has to leave her mom. I want to talk to him about it without being an asshole but I feel like he's immediately gonna take offense to it. @andrewsmommy,
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I don't think she is really old enough to know what she is doing. If your uncomfortable with it you should tell your husband so he can fix the behavior
Deon 🌻www.individualisticbeauty.com·
Мама четверых детей
Is she around men at her mother's house? She may not know what she's doing but maybe she does. I'm not jumping to conclusions and I hope that this is not the case at all but certain behaviors are present in sexually abused children and everyone doesn't see it right away. You have every right to bring your feelings to your husbands attention. Remember, it's not what you say, it's how you say it. This type of thing is sensitive issue so try to choose the best words when explaining your observations to him. @twinmommy1717,
Naomi Israel ·
It would make me feel uncomfortable as well but i dont think she knows... hopefully... if i saw that i would distract her with something else to do... not cause attention to the action cause it might just be innocent.
Rachel Alexandria·
Мама троих детей
Thank you everyone for your opinions! I did try to talk to him about it but he did get defensive even though I said it the nicest way I could. 😔 we got in a huge fight over it.. but I'm hoping once he cools down that he understands.