Beginning to hate my husband and he can't see it and it's sad if you love someone you sure as hell…

Have you guys tried or considered counseling?

@twinmommabellahali, we was a suppose to be working on the relationship seems I am the only one trying and he seems to not care so idk what else to say I hope he is happy when he doesn't have a family

That's how I was a year ago but I got through to my husband and talked it out. I was close to starting counseling for our marriage.

I'm not married but I had these problems for a year up until I finally just blew up because I was holding it in for so long and I told him how I felt about certain things, he understood and I seen a HUGE change after that talk we had. try actually sitting down and talking, make sure he listens and understands how you feel. I know the feeling of not being wanted/loved sucks big time. Hope you can get through to him.

@twinmommabellahali, it's really the fact tonight that we finally have a baby sitter for all our kids and instead of going to dinner and maybe a movie he rather spend money on beer and ride a four wheeler and it's not warm out it's chilly and it will get a little colder since we will be down by a river but he cares more about his friends then his wife and more about a four wheeler than his wife and I don't know how much longer I'm gonna stay with him if he doesn't stop

@ksavell9797 I can't talk about anything to him he will blow up and start an argument and then threaten to run off by himself and shit

@lae1988, he wouldn't stay calm just to listen to how you feel?

I'm sure when he has problems you listen to him right?

Honestly, I think he thinks he has you "in his pocket". My husband wouldn't do that to me, because he knows that if he does he will lose me. You need to show him without showing him that you need attention. When a relationship happens this way, it's time to show the one you love some teeth. You need to start going out with your friends, put some makeup on, leave the kids with him or if he cannot, leave them with your mom or dad or a baby sitter once and see his reaction! Will he ask you where you are going? Of course he'll be curious.... and your answer will be what!? "I'm going out to have some fun dear! Have a nice beer at home!" If that doesn't make him change, then obviously he is either sleeping with another woman, or he has issues that need to be worked on to keep the relationship going. And I hope he doesn't abuse you!

Mine was just like that. He'd blow me off for everyone else. I was ready to leave him and that became a reality check for him. I'm sorry you're going through this

Basically same thing I'm going threw, he doesn't see that I'm not happy

I'm feeling the exact same way except he's far away and we can't see each other

@ksavell9797, i listen to him daily and I stay calm he is bi polar bad @niceice0010, he isn't sleeping around he has issues lol big ones he is ridiculous I know he isn't sleeping around he wouldn't do that and he isn't abusive but he has anger issues and he still acts like a damn child he is a Moma's boy he thinks every one who tries to get him to understand things he is being criticized shit like that

@niceice0010, I have just matured way more than him over the past couple years

I see... it goes deeper. What you're saying is he has psychological issues and on top of that is bipolar 😐.There are medications for bipolar disorders. But he should consider going to see a doctor and psychiatrist for his issues and anger outbursts. You must be pretty strong to put up with another child.

I hope he matures, because my sister waited 8 years, and her husband never matured... he got worse and worse, and he pulled her down with him... she filed for divorce in the end because finally she said enough. She was totally alone and felt all the pressure on her. Now she has a great relationship with another man, who takes care of both her kids from the first marriage and he works too.

Why don't you just tell him to go out with his friend and you get ready to go out with yours and if he ask why just tell him you were hoping to have a night with just him but since he wants to be with friends than that's what you are going to do too. And you go out and enjoy your time with your friends

Tell him you're not trying to argue about it, it's just if that's what he wants to do than it's ok but you are going to do what you want to do too

Yes I agree^^ don't sit at home while he's out, you get a night out with your friends, your kids are taken care of, go have some well deserved fun with your friends, you will go crazy sitting in the house. Lol