So my fiancés mom & sister have a problem with me because I'm tired of the sisters son bullying my son all the time. I've been staying in my room & acting like they don't exist so I don't snap on the boy. Mind you that I'm pregnant & hormonal on top of already having anger issues.. so I feel like it's the adult thing to do, staying away from the kid.. but apparently this makes me childish. It's not like I keep my son away from his cousin but as soon as I hear my little man cry I bring him in the room with me & lock the door until he's ready to go back out there. And then they both get on Facebook talking crap about me instead of saying it to my face, seeing as we're all in the same house at the moment. But once I'm around them it's crickets. No one says a peep!!!
BUT my question is: Does it make me heartless to plan to only have my son & fiancé at the hospital when I deliver?
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It's tough when in someone else's house. The hard part is they might be thinking differently/be more laid back when you like more discipline with the children, etc. Personally, when living with others in the past It would take me a while before I'd snap and sit their butts down and have a chat to reach an agreement. If it didn't work, living arrangements didn't last and either I kicked them out (if it was my place) or I'd move out quick. I hope you get out of there soon. It's not fun being "stuck".
@jhalsted1995, okay, that's weird... maybe someone told her?
@liyahroyelle, yeah. It was my biological fathers mother. I haven't seen or heard from her in over seven years. I'm not even sure how she knew I was pregnant let alone in labor. 🙄
@jhalsted1995, oh wow! Really? Well I doubt that'll happen to me. All of my family love in Illinois. I'm out here alone with just my fiancé his family & our kids
@liyahroyelle, exactly. I had long lost family show up and didn't know until I was leaving and the nurses gave me a card they left for me.
@jhalsted1995, awesome! I'm definitely going to let my nurses know. No one allowed by my little family. I don't want to feel tension at such an important moment
@liyahroyelle, I wrote a Facebook post before I went into labor to post once I was in labor. I also told the nurses that I wasn't having visitors and they turned away anyone who tried to force their way in.
@jhalsted1995, thanks! I definitely feel like it's the best thing to do. I've been so stressed out this entire pregnancy
I didn't let anyone visit me at the hospital. I used the excuse of adjusting to a new baby is hard and having all the time I could to adjust and rest was what I thought was best.
@no062014, thank you. I definitely need a break from all of this
@liyahroyelle it does not make you heartless to only want your son and fiance there. Everyone has their own reasons but it can give you, your fiance and son all some much needed bonding time
@ncmomma, he has. They don't listen to him & that's the crazy thing. It's our house but it doesn't feel like it. We've told his mom to leave early in my pregnancy because of similar situations but she's not going anywhere & his sisters fiancé isn't getting their place fixed. It seems like I'll be stuck in this situation until our lease is up because I doubt he'll call the cops on his mom to have her removed
@ncmomma, and I've been on Facebook and said that. But again they don't direct anything. They'll get on the phone talking crap like I can't hear them & then wonder why I haven't spoken a word to either of them in 5 days
@ncmomma, Thank you! They make me seem like I'm the bad guy but if it was my son being mean all the time snatching toys, pushing & hitting her kids in the head it would be a whole different story!
@rainbow-baby, it's actually my house. It just doesn't feel like it because they took over. Especially his mom. It even looks like her house