Rant.....I personally don't like my boyfriends sister. She's a spoiled brat and very manipulative and she disrespected my mother. My bf, on his own, decided to make her the Godmother of our son. I understand that it's his sister but that doesn't give her priority over anyone else to be a godparent. I want someone I can trust with the life of my son and I personally don't see her as that person. He already asked her and she said yes so there's no going back now. Is it wrong for me to be upset or am I just overreacting and letting my personal feelings about her get in the way?
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No problem. I hope that helps, sorry I wrote so much lol
Oh and watch the way she is with your child. She may be that way now but overtime she may just impress you. Give it some time and though and consider your options
I'd say something. He needs to be considerate. You are the mother after all and play a huge roll. It's not just up to him. If you agree to disagree is one thing but to brush off your concerns and go behind your back and do it anyway. Don't let them walk over you. Your opinion matters! Tell her that he went behind your back and asked without her consent and you'd just like to explore your options a bit more and that it's alot that comes with that. She can't just say yes because it's cool or she feels honored or whatever but will she really be willing to raise a child or take a kid or a teenager and be there for life, is she going to put time and effort in or money to pay for things and school.. things happen and time stops for no one. He probably did it because it's a nice gesture and didn't think it through either. And you telling her and letting him know doesn't make you mean, or an ass, a bitch, jealous or whatever will come. It makes you a mother. A concern parent to the life you brought on this world and of they don't get that then their problem not yours. If it's still a no go then just pick your own God parent to match his. It's 2017 your child will have two. The more the marry'er. Better safe than sorry is the reason.
@alexis.barrett17, awhhh am sorry then 😞 I know how shitty that is ,
@katiesmiles1 He knew how I felt about it. We talked about it before and it didn't seem like a problem when I said no. He seemed understanding but he went behind my back anyway and asked her
@alexis.barrett17, then I would explain to him why you felt the way you do. Hopefully he understand
@katiesmiles1 Can't exactly go back and tell his sister she can't be the godmother. Not only would that cause a really big problem in my relationship but it would cause problems with his family and it would not end well
@alexis.barrett17, that was how it was with my bf and having our son circumsized but because it really mattered to me I kept bringing it up and I explained to him when he was calm why I was so passionate about it. If this is something that's going to hurt you every day of your child's life then it's worth fighting for
@katiesmiles1 tried talking to him about it but he just got upset and pretty much yelled at me so I just stopped talking about it
No you should be upset and also a god parent is not suppose to be a relative. Especially an aunt in her case it doesn't go with the whole concept I would bring it up to him. You both should be able to agree on God parents it's a huge commitment.
I would choose someone else and then tell her that she has to SHARE god mother duties and if she doesn't like that, she can't be godmother at all. But then again, I am mean like that.....