Ladies! Please tell me I'm not over dramatic right now. Here's what happened last night. I'm ebf. No bottles, no pumping yet so Rawlin is completely dependent on me for feeding. So last night I was in the shower and my husband couldn't get him to stop crying (he was hungry) so I cut it short. Get out butt naked and hurry to feed him. Not even get dressed or anything so we feed for 20 min. & so he fell asleep and I lay him down and go into the bathroom to try to get dressed and he started fussing and I asked my husband to come get him for a second. & he still couldn't get him to stop crying and he yells at me to hurry up and i just got frustrated and said damn man I can never do anything for myself. & this fucker said "well you shouldn't have had kids then!" Like excuse me?? I was so mad I didn't even talk to him for the rest of the night. So I had to feed Rawlin again for another 20 min. For some reason he kept wanting to cluster feed. And I needed to clean the kitchen after dinner and he couldn't help me! So it's already 9 at this point. And he hasn't helped me with anything. And my 3 year old is still in his regular clothes so I had to go change him and put his pjs and tuck him then. Then pack my husband lunch. Clean the kitchen. Throw the trash. And yes I never expect my husband to help BUT since I had Rawlin I'm still healing from my c section so I do expect to help atleast with the kids. And he knows this!!! and when I asked him to help he gives me this ugly freaking attitude. Anyways. It's been like this for the past week. Anyways I asked my husband to get me the swabs to clean Rawlin belly button cause his cord fell off and he just acted like the world was gunna end and then slammed the drawers. Like really? It's that hard to help me! I know he works 7-7 with no days off but my job never ends either!!! I'm just stressed and I really trying to avoid getting ppd again but this doesn't help at all.
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@korahleah_11 yeaaay hope God helps ya get better 😇
Thank you! We had a talk about it and he's getting a little better. Just hope it stays that way. @alliaddiabbi131516,
Oh my that's so sad I am so sorry for u... @korahleah_11
Yes ma'am! Excalty! We are going to work on it for sure. He wants to take me to dinner now lol kiss ass @inkedmommy327,
@korahleah_11, 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 good for you girl! Now if I was you I would show him different things to do so help soothe your baby. If he doesn't want to learn then he can help you some other way. (Make his own lunch, clean up etc.)
Yeah he's probably trying out how to say sorry again. lol I mean I love him to death but I've been there done with this with my other sons dad and I'm not gunna go threw this again! & he knows better. I expected so much more from him! @mrscourtneylynndavis2016,
Go figure lol he probably won't because he knows you are right
Yup!!! He still hasn't said anything back lol @mrscourtneylynndavis2016,
Yes! Definitely heard those words before lol! And I think he was being a dick yesterday cause he got his MRI results back on his back and he's gunna need surgery again so he's stressed about that. He's only 25 going on his second back surgery but still I'm your wife. It's not my fault! & hes really bad about taking his anger out on me but idk I guess cause I'm the only one around but still doesn't make it right @inkedmommy327,
@korahleah_11, I sometimes have to lose my shit so that my husband knows I'm being serious. And I'm quick to call him out on his bullshit... I tell him stuff like "It's not my fault you had a shitty day" or "Don't be a dick with me cuz you're tired, you aren't the only one that's tired." And he usually changes his attitude or doesn't say much after
Yeah I understand. & it's definitely harder it seems like when breastfeeding cause like all my son wants is me especially when he's fussy or hungry and I think that discourages him too. But his attitude is just so shitty when he gets in those moods & im the one who gets the raft of him and it sucks cause i try not to be a bitch but I feel like I'm gunna snap & I don't want that. He still hasn't replied yet so I'm just waiting to see what he says @inkedmommy327,
@korahleah_11, before we had our son my husband didn't really have any experience with babies so he would get frustrated and discouraged when he couldn't soothe him the way I could so most of the time it wasn't that he didn't want to help it was cuz he really didn't know how. So I really had to work with him and show him what worked with our son.
Yes I agree. And i think it's just upsets me more because I feel like he acts like I'm asking him to do brain surgery. I mean I just needed you to hold him for a second, or get me swabs. Like calm down it's not that big of a deal 😔 ugh @inkedmommy327,
I would think so too. Like it's so simple lol. We eat. We watch tv. And when we go to bed. Raiden gets changed from his pamper and clothes and goes to bed. Then we changed the baby and change his diaper and his belly button, put him down and then IF anything needs to picked up that's what we do. Super simple. But idk. Men these days lol 🙄 @nowmrspost,
I totally get it. My husband goes through phases of the same thing. I have to remind him that he has to help at least every few months. I think as men they don't realize how much a stay at home mom actually does everyday. And they won't until they experience it themselves
my hubby usually doesn't mind doing things (even before marriage or having our child)... I'd just need to ask. but if it's routine things with your hubby, he should kinda get the hint I would think lol
I tried to let it go, but it's the same thing over and over every day girl. Like I knows he tired. He works his ass off! & I don't expect him to get up at night or anything like that you know? But if I ask him to get him one little then he should be happy to? That's how I feel lol. Like I don't wanna fight but I feel like even if he does say sorry he still doesn't get the point on what needs to change. & he says "teach him" but he's 25 years old. I feel like he should realize what needs to change but maybe I'm giving him to much credit @hiswifetheirmama,
Thank you! My oldest isnt biologically his but he's been his "daddy" for the past two years. But I mean i got my oldest. But my newborn is his and he's been to step it up. I don't expect a whole lot from him. But it's the little things he could do. @mylilangel,
your definetly not dramatic gun he chose to have kids too if those are his kids as well and he needs to step up to the plate and be a better father and husband to you guys what you said was perfectly fine and if he gets mad over what you said he's obviously stupid.
@korahleah_11 u welcome 😇😘