So I can't post how I'm feeling on any other social media site I have an account on so I'm gonna post on here cause there are other women that understand how I'm feeling. So my husband makes me very upset and pissed off, we are living with my family right now and I'm the only one out of the two of us that gets up with our baby girl in the night when she wakes up,because he's upstairs on the couch watching movies till 3 or 4 in the morning. And then when he comes to bed and she starts crying I ask him to get up and change her or feed her ,since I was up with her before, and he blows up at me. So my question is, can anyone on here give me any advice on what to do? I've tried talking to him about it and it just starts a fight half the time.
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@haidynsmama, I agree with you it is so frustrating and honestly it's getting really old really fast. I feel like a single mom that has no help from no one. 😕
Sometimes men arent as clever as we think they should be lol. Sometimes they dont know you want or need the help. We as women tend to be very hands on with everything because its our natural nurturing ways. So i'd say even if it causes an argument tell him how you feel and why you feel the way you feel. If he truly sits there and listens to you without being disrespectful(neither of you) hell hear your ask for help. If he doesnt want to hear it or gets argumental n disrespectful in anyway that should be your answer to any doubt you may have about him going to be a real father (hands on) to your child and how you feel about that. Best of luck mommy. Stay strong. They grow and it gets easier. Its those few first months where you just got to breathe and keep pushing for your kids ❤😘
i think that if you're communicating your needs and he's still not willing to help then i would try couples counseling as last resort. He is a father, you shouldn't always have to ask him. He needs to step up. You're literally a single mother, be strong and do what is best for you and your child.
So sorry you are going thru this! Sounds like he might need to reevaluate what's more important.. staying up til 3-4am or going to bed early so he can help throughout the night. My hubby and I take turns every other day for the middle of the night feedings/etc. trust me, it wasn't easy at first... he would complain and wake me up too with all his huffing and puffing but that was because baby was still new and he didn't know what to do. Having a baby will definitely put a strain on the relationship but you just have to power thru it and help each other!
This sounds Just like me and my daughters dad ugh so
Frustrating
my husband gets up and gets the bottles every time while I change her. once in a while he will take a feeding like at 6 so I can sleep till 7 when the alarm goes off. I wanted to do every other feeding but I don't think he likes doing it alone.
I would have told him to leave if he's not gonna be a father to our baby. Just because I wouldn't be able to stand the rest of my life being with someone who shows no support for me or our child. Thankfully my husband has been the most supportive person throughout my pregnancy he's so excited for our first baby.
@alimtz0510, I've been fighting with him about this since she was born and I'm about at the end of my rope.
You'd be surprised how well they take that into consideration
Tell him it takes a hell of a lot more than being the baby's dad to be a father.
I will admit I did post this out of anger and sleepiness. He does make a bottle 90% of the time and will get up with her/stay up with her about 30% of the time. I just sometimes wished he'd do more. But it's not all bad and he is by no means a dead beat. Our daughter is his number one priority and he is great with her