OK so my husband and I moved in with my mom after my dad passed away in oct. so that she wouldn't be alone and we could…

@kmharr3 I understand that. but I'm on complete bedrest husband is in a wheelchair and she told me she'd be here to help us so I can relax. then she has 20 dogs that need to be taken care of that she just dumps on us now.

your mom's life just shook upside down, she probably has alot of emotions going on she probably finds comfort in this other guy, and she probably feels that since her kids are grown she can do what she wants without it affecting you too much since she isn't raising her kids anymore

@kmharr3 thank you yeah I just feel like shaking her and ask her why is she trying to act like she is a teenager again like your 55 yrs old a grandmother for god sakes just stop doing this shit ugh

that's what my mom said too. it was a big shock for me as well, I'm so sorry for you loss :(

@kmharr3 thank you I'm sorry to hear about your step dad. I'm just amazed how she said she'd never be with another man and a week later boom she staying at this dudes house every night

2 years ago my step dad passed away. I was 38 weeks pregnant, we decided to move in with her to help with her mortgage payment and so she wouldn't be in her big house alone. she acted excited about my daughter but she rarely helped me with her. my husband left 2 months later to go to basic training, she still didnt help and honestly she acted like she didnt need me there. 3 months after my step dad passed away she told me she was flying across country to hang out with a guy her and my step dad knew from driving semis, I thought it was really fast for her to move on and I was hurt because I questioned how much she really loved my step dad, and I hadn't moved on. I was still grieving. her and this new guy married 3 months later. honestly I'm still hurt. one thing I realized is some people cannot be alone, and for my mom this guy had similarities to my step dad and he was a trucker and by marrying him it was the fastest way for her life to go back to "normal" for it to be kind of like it was before my step dad passed, just with a new guy. I completely understand where you are coming from and I am here if you want to talk.

Your mom is moving on and it's great! My dad passed away 20 years ago and my mom is still alone. Of course she had some relationships, but nothing serious. She really wants to find a man and get married second time. But it's really hard to find a right person. Looks like your mom is happy now with that guy, it's amazing that she found someone so fast!

P.S. sorry if I made some mistakes, English is my second language😌

That's why you really need to have a heart to heart with her.

@danielswifey the only time she has free anymore is when she is taking me to my appointments and she acts so irritated about it anymore.. like when we on the way texts the guy while driving and I'm like getting pissed off telling her to put the phone down. then when I'm in the Dr she outside calling him when she is supposed to be in there with me... I just feel like she is trying to avoid me anymore

tell her you need to talk to her when she does show up or tell her you need some mother daughter time because you miss her

@danielswifey I'll try. I barely even see her anymore she walk in and basically walks right back out to go meet him or stay at his house.

just tell her that you support her but you just want her to be careful. tell her you know he's a good guy but you don't want to see her get hurt after everything she has been through because you love her very much

@danielswifey I'm trying to support her. and I really can't say nothing bad about this dude cause apparently she's in love with him.. and I'm afraid if I say I don't like how fast it's going she just gonna go back into her depression

unfortunately that's the way some people move on. if it really bothers you try and talk to her but maybe the best thing to do is just support her because she is your mom and i know you love her very much. i went through a similar situation and i know it's hard but in the end if you love someone you will just accept their decisions as long as they're happy.