So I need some advice/to vent..
My bf and I have a son together and for now we live with his mom. His mom and I don't get along at all. Over the last 4 years she's done irreparable damage to our relationship to the point I don't want to marry him anymore. We can't move out until I'm done with school which is in a year and a half. I've tried to get out of here on my own with my son so many times. My bf is scared to move out of his moms house and ignores everything she does to us so he can live there. But it gets to me all the time.. my question is how would you deal with this situation? 90% of the time my son and I are cooped up in our room cuz she tries to talk to me when we come out. And I've tried letting it go or just putting up with it. I've done it for 4 years. I can't anymore.. I don't care if this is her house. You don't get to do or say whatever you want to someone that doesn't do shit to you.. what would you guys do?
@tiffanyyoung0913, I've tried. He says he doesn't want to be in the middle of it anymore. But every time I try to talk to her about it she starts cry and pulling guilt trips. She's mad cuz I don't want to have a relationship with her but honestly who would want a relationship with someone who talks shit all the time and is just.. seriously.. so frickin dumb it's unreal. Perfect example: we had a patio umbrella outside and it was steaming after a rain. She asked if it was going to catch on fire.. like in all seriousness. Who does that shit?😒
Being in a room all day with people that despise you outside of the door is sooo devastating
@zombiemama, well you should really talk to him about how you feel in reference to her not respecting you.
yup. thats exactly how it was. you need to get out of that situation. its toxic. you and your baby deserve better ans deserve to be happy not locked in a room like an animal. you need to feel comfortable where you live. you dont want the baby growing up in a hostile enviroment.
@tiffanyyoung0913, I try to but my bf plays guilt trips all the time. That and I feel bad cuz my son is delayed and I feel like being taken from his dad would be too stressful for him.
@sk216, that's exactly what I do. I don't leave this room until he comes home. I've stayed at my parents house twice now. He gets all pissy with me when I do that and gets mad at his mom for starting her shit. But it literally only takes him an hour of being alone with his mom until she gets him blaming me for everything.
My mother in law is a Bitch fr. So I totally understand what your dealing with, but we aren't near each other. It takes men forever to wing off of their mothers. Idk why, but it does. My husband used to flip out on me when his mom would play victim... until I got fed up and was leaving his behind. He's gotten a little better with it. But that's marriage. You on the other hand are just dating, so you don't have to deal with the absurd monster in law. Do whatever makes you happy before it's to late.
i kinda had a similar situation go on. we were living with his parents and his 3 brothers which didnt bother me at all until we had the baby... then they all were super overwhelming and irritating. he would go off to work all day and i would be stuck at home with all of them and the baby. i would literally hide in the bedroom and not come out until he got home cuz they would be all over the baby and i couldnt handle it. i wouldnt even go downstairs to eat. i would only go down to get her a bottle and even that was more than i wanted to.. it took months of complaining to him and then i finally told him i couldnt do it anymore and that me and the baby were gonna go to my moms and he could either stay or come with us.. he ended up coming with us and now we live with my mom and come visit his parents on the weekends. its so much less stressful and i resent his family so much less now that i have space and only come here to visit. totally know what your going through. try your best to hang in there and just know you wont be there forever. maybe try taking the baby and going somewhere else for a week. just give yourself a break.
@zombiemama, wth. Yehh that is a squirrelly ass question. See mine on the other hand just craves her son attention that she is a bitch. I don't even talk to her unless it's absolutely needed... if he wants things to progress between the two of you then he needs to get her straight before you even think about an I do