20 years old, fiancé is 19. We both still live with our mothers, and both of us just lost our full time jobs. Pregnancy was an accident, because my bc pill failed. I want to do right by my baby and get a job and my own place for my fiancé and I to live. I don't know what to do. I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant and I just told my mom. She is now trying to pressure me into having an abortion, even though that's not what my fiancé or I want. He hasn't yet told his mom, but his nephew overheard us talking and went back and told his mom we were having a baby. First thing she did was start yelling. My fiancé then proceeded to tell his mom that I wasn't to keep her from kicking him out of her house, as she already threatened if he got me pregnant. Now I'm starting to have doubts about the whole situation and thinking that maybe I should just go ahead and get the abortion to save myself and our families the heartache. What should I do?
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I really hate sharing my living situation because people are so judgemental but I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 28. When we met him and his ex still shared a place because she used their daughter to keep him around. He now lives with his mom and I live with mine. I was so scared when I found out I was pregnant because I was in school and the situation was not ideal. My boyfriend suggested an abortion when he saw my reaction but we decided that wasn't for us and now we have a beautiful 3 month old. We still don't have our own place and he's the only one working but I don't know what I would do with myself if I would have had an abortion. That's something that's going to live with you everyday, don't do it just because family wants to be assholes. Once your pregnancy progresses they will more than likely come around, I promise.
I agree with all these ladies. :)
We also had family that was not very supportive of our wonderful unplanned blessing that our son was. At first, however his dad and I worked hard together, (for the most part). We didn't focus on what other people thought. An now 5 years later everyone that doubt us, had to eat their words.
My point is, once you become a mother and he becomes a father. That's it your on your own! All that matter is how hard you work together to love and support each other and your child.
Congratulations I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to. :)
that is completely up to you. no-one but you can make that decision. there is financial help but only if your willing to apply yourself and work hard to get a job. I was nowhere near ready to have my son when I had him. I was single, alone and had no job. but decided to carry on with my pregnancy and work hard to give him everything. he is almost 2 years old and is by far the best choice I've ever made
@beebaby is right. you should do what YOU feel and what is really in YOUR heart. Like she said, its true you have plenty of time to get stable for you and the baby. Dont make a quick decision for a temporary circumstance because an abortion you will always have to live with. If you ever wanna talk Im here too. Good luck hun I hope things get better for you and your fiance. @irmohigh2014
Oh, I was also accused by his aunt of getting pregnant just to claim child support on him. So it's not like everyone was happy I was pregnant. My dad got drunk and continued to tell me how I just threw my life away and fucked up, now he's the happiest Papa and loves her with all his heart.