This is going to be long so please help. I need some of ice from some of your mommies who have been torn between families during Christmas meaning torn between mommy's side of the family and daddy's side of the family. Both families are doing Christmas on Christmas Eve this year. Our daughter will be four months on Christmas Day. For the past three years we have done Christmas at my mom's house or my sister's house Christmas Eve. Aaron, my fiancé, has missed out doing his family's tradition going to his brother's house on Christmas Eve. to have the kids open presents. My sisters doing Christmas on the 22nd which is tomorrow because my brother-in-law is a pilot and won't be home for Christmas so I suggested that since my family will be at my sister's tomorrow night that we have the baby have her Christmas altogether with my side of the family with her cousins to open presents. But my mom wants me to do Christmas Eve, again with everyone including my sister and my niece and nephews with the baby and expects me to be there the whole time even though I told her that I would have to go between both families and it really is a pain in the butt to go back-and-forth with an almost 4-month-old. My mom is going to Georgia for Christmas Day and for the past couple holiday is she has not been home. Aaron has gone to every single family event and we have missed so much doing stuff with his side of the family because I always get bitched at that I don't go to this that and the other thing. I only think it's fair that we do Christmas eve with his side of the family this year and next year when my mom will be home for Christmas we do Christmas with them. The baby will be over a year next year. When I explained this to my sister last night she copped an attitude and said I had an attitude and I should've made plans in advance.
I'm so sick of my side of the family getting all the attention and his side is left in the dust.
What do I do? I think having the baby's Christmas with my side tomorrow night is the best. It's not fair that we don't spend ANY holidays with Aaron's side of the family.
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@lindsey89. yea momma he seems like a great guy and it sucks that you're family wants all your time during the holiday.. Let him have his christmas at his family's house with you and the baby and u guys go to your sisters and if they can't appreciate that well you may have to distance yourself a little bit sad 2 say but its not fair 2 u or him to be stressed out about something they should have understanding about
@renee556, thank you for commenting back. I know it was long. I just think why should I have to have two Christmases with my side and nothing for side. It's not fair. And to be honest his family has helped us out more than my own financially since Aaron was laid off in August right after the baby was born. The Holidays are supposed to be joyful and happy and I feel like I'm so stressed out and overwhelmed and sick of getting the wrath from my side that I'm about to say forget it altogether. We may not have the money for gifts but I would be just as happy sitting at home or driving somewhere to see some lights than get the cold shoulder. If it wasn't for Aaron I wouldn't be a mommy because when we met I was a really bad drug addict and he helped me get clean. He's been there through more than anyone has even my family. I don't need the drama. Ya know it's how things are supposed to be.
I definitely agree with you on that. Sometimes u as a parent have to make sacrifices, and if you have been neglecting his side of the family to make sure your family is happy thats not fair to him or his side like u stated. And going back nd forth with a 4month old yea u r right thats to much. At the end of the day your man has been very supportive it seems like and has denied his family the opportunity that yours recieves. They may be hurt but I think they will understand and who knows maybe one year yall can do xmas at yalls place and have both familes over and then no one is left out
Exactly @renee556, I'm stressing about talking to my mom about this already and I already have anxiety through the roof. I even had to block and distance myself during my pregnancy from my mom and sister. Sydney's daddy is amazing. He has put up with so much and it's taken him ALOT to bite his tongue how my family treats me.