@littleelf85 a bath what's that? I'm lucky to get a 5 minute shower at the minute. The kitchen sink is my best friend for washing my hair and getting a quick wash at the minute. XD @sara-lou he has already agreed that as soon as I can let myself let Hope sleep upstairs he won't go on the xbox until she is in bed. personally I don't see the point in gaming but I know it's the only hobby rob has so I let him do it. Now I've had a sleep (fell asleep at around 10 ish) I feel a hell of a lot better, think I was mostly stressing because I was knackered and Rob said he would be up in the day yesterday so I was pissed that he wasn't. we sorted it as I refuse to sleep on an argument. I knew it was going to be 24/7 but I didn't realise it was mostly going to be me. I can't wait to have our nights back and not be a robot. 😂 Especially at 3 in the morning when Rob is at work and I'm walking around with glazed eyes. XD xx

It won't be like it forever don't worry 😊 But put your foot down with the gaming! I don't control Rob he's a grown arse man, but he knew how strongly I felt about him being on it at certain times & we just talked about when would be appropriate. Then we came up with his 2 gaming nights. But again once we had Max that stopped but once he's gone into Morgan's room he can have them again lol. The early days are tough because babies pretty much up 24/7 and your continously feeding/changing etc but once they start going to bed & you get your evenings back it helps make you feel like your a couple again & not just robots haha

@sara-lou well it's safe to say I never understood baby blues until now! I'm the same with my Rob (also my OH name. xD) he can do the slightest thing and it can piss me off like there's no tomorrow but there's other times I just want to cuddle and not let him go. I just feel like where we've set to now is more beneficial to him and not me. oh I wish the xbox was out of the question. if it was my choice I'd burn the damn thing! I've already told him, when hopes a bit older it will not go on until 7 o'clock! (as that's hopes bed time). My rob does occasional try and do stuff with me like watch a film or something like we did last night but 99% of the time, it's more important to be playing on that damn thing or so it seems! I have to admit, it there is something wrong with Hope, he will stop playing and sort her out if I'm not there, otherwise I end up doing it. I hope to god things start to fall into place with us soon, I can't be dealing with it being like this forever. @littleelf85 haha, hey, you get the odd 5 minutes in between where the baby doesn't want feeding... ;) xx

@littleelf85 don't be! you have your two little boys to help you! you will do amazingly with this one just like you have with the other two! I think it's time I just start putting my foot down. xx

Sometimes it is our emotions getting the better of us. I'd get so angry at Rob for snoring & end up crying as I was telling him I can't sleep because of his snoring! Haha But there were times he was being a dick as well. It's a big change for you both. And I'm sure you know you just have to compromise with each other. Xbox & PlayStation was out of the question the first month or so. So if I needed him he was there. Then as we settled & got more into a routine he started playing again. He's not allowed on it during the day when the kids are awake or I'm with him. He has 2 nights a week where he can play all night long if he wants & he does bits here & there if I go out. I still want him to have some free time but we need to make time for us as well. It's easy to fall into our roles and forget each other!

@sara-lou it's the same with us, we never argued until now. I mean, I love him to pieces, but he does sometimes piss me off thoroughly! I try to talk but then I either get up set or angry, so then he does too. He is really supportive and tries to do his bit, but sometimes I just feel like his bit isn't enough and I might as well do it all. Just like I sometimes feel like I come second to the xbox and to his xbox friends. @littleelf85 it will all come rushing back to you! 😂 xx

Rant away. The first few months I think are the toughest on you as a couple. I don't think Rob & I argued until we had Morgan lol. Having a child really tests our relatinships. All I can say is talk to him. Keep communicating. The more you build it up the higher the chance one day you'll explode. I don't know if what your partners like but hopefully he's supportive & will listen & help where you need him to.

@littleelf85 exactly! I do it all when he's at work and he's usually at work for over 7 days and then he complains that he's tired because 'he has to go an make a living for us.' Oh I do apologise you got me pregnant and I'm on maternity leave! I have tried. I repeatedly tell him to bring her back up when he's finished feeding her but it's easier for him to just stick her in the moses basket. I wish you luck but I'm sure you won't need it! With two already under your belt, you must be a pro. xx

@littleelf85 I take her to bed with me, but he brings her down the second she starts whinging (and considering she's constipated a lot,he hasn't yet worked out the difference in her cries.)I think I may have to do that though. probably my best plan. @tg123456789 I wish it was that easy. I couldn't live without him and don't want Hope to miss out on her dad. it's just pissing me off. xx

easy solution here. tell him to get a grip or piss off. harsh. but honest. more u let him then the more he will take piss @nessie95

@littleelf85 and when he's back at work, I'm not going to be able to sit downstairs with her all night because she won't sleep upstairs. he doesn't get this. he's just like we'll when I go back I'm only back for 3 days anyway
well whoopty doo. that's still three days where I have to live off minimal sleep because you've made her sleep downstairs!

@littleelf85 I really do appriciate him helping! I just wish 1, I could get as much sleep as he does, but I have to get up and be a mom and 2, he would listen to me because it's only going to make things harder when she's older and refuses to sleep upstairs because he's decided to let her sleep downstairs.

@littleelf85 I've tried. we just ended up getting into an argument about it. like last night we tried to do it where we both went to bed together and I got up for the first feed and him the second one, he whinged that he got woken up by Hope at 2:30 after i fed her (she was whinging in her cot) and then couldn't get back to sleep. so I brought her downstairs at 6 this morning and he slept until 3 this afternoon. I woke him up with a bloody bacon sandwich and a coffee and now he's just being an arse. he ended up doing no feeds and I did both of the fuckers.

@littleelf85 yeah he does, but both Hope (who is now awake throughout a lot of the day) and I are both missing out on actually seeing him any other time. and also he seems to think it's okay to leave her down stairs with him in her moses basket when she should be upstairs getting used to it. Yeah she's only 4 weeks old but he can't keep her down here for the rest of her flipping life.