Do you ever confuse being a mom being a wife? I feel like I'm losing being a wife and a woman.
Warning : TMI me and my husband have been married for almost 2 years now and I have yet to orgasm. I'm beginning to learn that I am struggling with some psychological barriers. I'm feeling like I don't deserve to orgasm. I love sex, I just don't feel like I deserve that joy. I am LDS and I know that sex is ordained of God that it is Holy, in that we are meant to have joy, in the we are meant to enjoy sex. I just find it hard to truly and deeply believe that I personally am meant to have that kind of joy. I just needed to get this out there and see if maybe anyone could help me find ways to change the belief I have that I am not worth it.
@labunni I am anxious/worried about nearly every thing my husband says I need to stop worrying and let go and just go with the flow. I don't drink though.
Maybe you need to clear your mind. You sound anxious. Have a drink before.
@mommy.to.sterling I try to let go and just enjoy how it feels but I think I'm focusing so much it backfires
@labunni I know a good part of the problem is me. when ever we have sex I usually want him inside me right away instead of waiting til I get close to orgasm. I'm really impatient for some reason. I'm the one who doesn't let him finger me. and I'm bad at telling him what works and what doesn't.
@kambam thank you so much for your comment. part of the reason I'm reaching out for help is I know my sweet husband feels bad he can't get me to orgasm.
No worries :-) being direct helps. I haven't figured out how to successfully do that. even then I'd rather not because I used to have an addiction to masturbating. I've been able to overcome it and get my temple recommend back.
@mommy.to.sterling I've been able to get myself to orgasm and my husband once got me really close but I have a hard time being patient and let him help me. I struggle to communicate effectively how to help me. and because of past issues I avoid masturbating.
I know what I need to do it's hard to just do it though, it's really hard to let go