I need advice.. my boyfriend lost his job a few months ago he's been working for a landscaping company but since the…
I need advice..
my boyfriend lost his job a few months ago he's been working for a landscaping company but since the season is over he hasn't made much. He's snow plowed but still not bringing in enough. We have been fighting so much, and all the bills have been on me and I can't afford it all this month and I don't know what we're going to do. The little money he gets he gives me enough for gas sometimes and then he spends the rest on ciggarettes, and junk food. He sleeps all the time. I'm not happy. I love him but I've considered leaving. He isn't stepping up to be a dad. Our daughter is 9 months old and he doesn't take care of her. He barely changes her diaper, sleeps through her crying, has never given her a bath, hates feeding her. I've been with him for 2 years, baby was planned but he's not growing up like I need him too. I can't do it on my own. I love him but idk if it's worth it to stay anymore 😭
Chelsea·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года)
Leaving works, but coming back multiple times shows him it's okay and he doesn't have to change for you to come back. Kick HIM out! You have the child, you should have a stable place to live. Look into income based housing in your area also
Faith·
Мама троих детей
If it was me I would just leave and not even communicate with him. I'd let him figure things out and have him realize what he's missing out on. Maybe then he would grow up. You gotta let him know your being serious that he needs to grow up and help out. Leaving is the only way he's gonna realize it sounds like. I'm sorry your going through this
Jessica·
I'm a mess. If I leave my whole life is going to change. I have to move back in with my parents, and I really don't think they want that. I can't afford an apartment on my own. I'm transitioning to a new job and not making much money yet. :(
Shyla Marie·
В ожидании первенца
I agree. There's a difference between not being able to find another job, and spending the money you do have on unnecessary things :/
Jessica·
I have told him that, I mean we can go to my moms we have several times and stayed for a few days but the topper lately is he was treating me bad and yelling at me and my mom overhead I was on the phone with her and she banned him from being around and from Christmas and I don't blame her. Now my family hates him. It's just rough all around. I love him and I don't want to tear apart my family but I know if I do leave and take Lilly with me, he won't see her. I don't like his parents house it's dirty, and his mom has Alzheimer's and his dad had major heart surgery. They can't take care of her. His brother and Sil can't even take care of their two boys. I don't want my daughter around that. She loves her daddy though.
kate·
В ожидании первенца
tell him if he doesn't help u and ur daughter are leaving
kate·
В ожидании первенца
can u and ur daughter go to family house
Jessica·
Also, I've tried talking to him about getting a new job. With regular hours and he just shuts down and doesn't do or say anything. He has a opportunity to get a job at a gas station right by our apartment but he won't step up to do it. I can't afford all the bills and I don't even think we will afford rent for January.