I could use some opinions or insight please! My son is my only child. He is about to be 14 months old. My nephew is about to turn 5 on Christmas Day. This is the second time in a row that my nephew has been mean to my son!!! Last time he smashed a pillow in Gianni's face, said "I'm going to kill him dead" and when I removed Gianni he threw pillows at him from across the room. He took a toy my son was playing with and stomped it, obviously breaking it. He turned on a (it was plastic) fan that was missing the front screen. He put Gianni's hand inside, one of Gianni's fingers got cut. He does all of this very sneaky. Like when I was digging in my diaper bag or getting his brother to stop jumping on the couch. I thought it was because I was the only adult and it was 3 kids. Testing his boundaries. My mom says I'm paranoid and making this up.
Today my nephew again threw things at my son! He then put his face in my son's and made this horribly mean face started saying scary angry things. While almost head butting him. I told him to stop and obviously grabbed my son. So it didn't happen for long. But then Gianni was just walking past and my nephew spanked him! Multiple times. I told him "no we do not spank the baby!!!" I don't believe in spanking my son and especially not at only a year old! My nephew then jumped on the bed my son was playing by and went to kick him in the head.
We are now hiding in a different room. Idk what to say or do. My brother and mother all acted like I was the issue. They call my son bad! I don't understand. And I obviously don't want my son to ever get hurt. We hardly get to see my family. I really wanted things to be nice.
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My nephew has never been violent until he started watching super heroes, wrestling and scary movies. Definitely way older than he should be watching. I don't think spanking him would help. They already do that. And he's just gotten worse. All his violence is from what they do and what he watches. They just don't believe that he is hurting my son. They're all in denial 😔. I tried putting him in a time out and he threw a fit. Threw himself against the wall, started panting like a dog and screaming! I don't even know what I can do to protect my son other than keep them from each other. But that means never seeing my family @mamahoude, @angelinashell, @kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom, @_stephanie.g,
Wow when a child does that it all leads back to the parents not being able to parent their child . There must be a reason for it . Maybe he is jealous of the baby and is acting out ? Not sure what you can do besides refuse to have him over ever again. My cousin used to pick on me and was very mean when I was little , he tried drowning me in a pool once . His parents divorced and he was an only child he definitely had some issues going on and later in life became a drug addict. I feel sad for him I hope his behavior is corrected before it's too late and he does this in school to other children
^ I second that. My son is 5 and my other son is about to be 15 months old. I guarantee a 5 year old boy can go without hurting the baby on purpose. You need to stay away from your family if they don't think your nephew is the problem. My older son knows not to hurt the baby. Playing and hurting on purpose to be mean are two different things (my big kid plays rough sometimes). I don't tolerate when he's mean. I'm a mean mom when it comes to that. It's easier when it's your own child when you can discipline them though. Either way your baby isn't in the wrong at all. He's a baby.
@bonniesue like @_stephanie.g said he needs to be disciplined for his behavior, it's not about being paranoid at all. First the pillow incident and the words he said is something to take seriously whether he was playing or not!
it's too many dangerous behavior he is showing. I wouldn't leave my child around him without me being around I'm sorry.
He's 5 ? I'm sorry he needs some spankings.. at that age they should teach him or at least know the right from wrong & your son is just a baby that doesn't know the good from bad. & something has to be done with your nephew..
@bonniesue I understand how you may feel about not able to be around your family if you keep your nephew away from. your child. but if you have done all that you can and the parents don't nip his behavior in the bud now he is only going to get even worse and that leads to a horrible path. its about the safety of your child at this point even if you have to stay away for Just a small period of time or until your child can defend himself that is what the right thing would be to do.