well you guys it all came out tonight .. he cried and cried and cried ( about him going to jail) anyway , I stole his phone put it in my pants (lilkidshit I kno) he kept on kept on til I gave it to him. well before I did I went to his msgs. seen some random number . that's how it started , he told me who it was . etc. I read the messages . which was only 3 where he been deleting them. said that's why he been hiding his phone etc. normal convo that I seen . but , still. now that it's how I can figure how to deal with it. I haven't said much to him at all. he keeps apologizing . said should he leave. .i knew if I kept on I'd eventually get to the bottom of it.