I have a question for everyone. So I have one side of my family that was never involved with me. They're all mostly siblings and cousins (my father was busy before he married my mom lol). All of them came to my fathers funeral (i was 5 yrs old) looking for what he left them and after that never had contact with me. My mom had given her number in case they wanted to reach out and purposely didn't change the number so they always had it. Fast forward to now, they have finally reached out after 16 years. they invited me to Thanksgiving which I was unable to make because I didn't have to money to travel to them and I didn't feel comfortable sleeping over 3 nights at someone who says is my sister but never thought of me until now. I explained to them the lack of money and said I'd try to come for a day visit but still wasn't able to (we literally are so low on money that we're having a tough time feeding ourselves). Well today I got messages from the lot of them saying they're mad at me and hurt that I didn't come and that money wasn't a issue and that I lied about that and that they were no longer going to reach out anymore. I personally feel they have no right to be mad. I had explained my situation. I feel like they can wait a bit or come to me since they never once responded in 16 years of me trying desperately to know them. At this point I don't even see them as family. just people I'm related to. what does everyone else think? how would you respond
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@nkinsey, I've tried 😩 they popped back into my life a year ago and for a full year I've been making attempts to meet up, to see them, to hang out, anything and everything. I've cancelled my sons therapy, I've put aside full days and I maybe saw them. once out of all of that. I want to continue trying buy I feel like they have no right to be mad that I missed one thing when they have been avoiding me for a year.
@nkinsey, I've tried 😩 they popped back into my life a year ago and for a full year I've been making attempts to meet up, to see them, to hang out, anything and everything. I've cancelled my sons therapy, I've put aside full days and I maybe saw them. once out of all of that. I want to continue trying buy I feel like they have no right to be mad that I missed one thing when they have been avoiding me for a year.
@lizzyc09, I agree. I don't miss any of them. them saying they retract their support means nothing to me cu they were never there
@serenemom, exactly! girl I was so mad. especially since the popped up and started offering money to make me like them more. like if you showed up a few years ago maybe you wouldn't have to bribe my affections
@serenemom, I think I just might do that. because it's ridiculous to be so mad at me when they never made a move to know me growing up
@jade2017, I feel the same way! they just popped out of no where going "hey sissy you look good" and I'm just staring at them like uh who are you exactly?
No you dont need them you have done your own life the past 16 years so why start with them now? Thats how I feel. when I was younger and tried to know them no one responded lol but suddenly ppl come out the woods like hey sis! Im like uhh no. bye! lol. @rosiel49
@jade2017, I totally agree, I really don't need these half assed people I'm my life. they were never there and I miss one thing because of struggles and suddenly I'm the bad guy. like wtf
@bria, I almost did but bit my tongue because I thought maybe it was my hormones talking
I have been in your exact situation. My dad passed away too when I just turned 6 years old. and I have two "sisters" by him. I dont even consider them siblings because they havent been in my life and when one tried to reach out she just used me for anything I had so In turn I told em to fuck off lol. No need for half ass people in your life.
@nkinsey, thank you! I feel like I did. I sent a long text explaining how I felt in the most respectful, well worded way I could.