Okay y'all, I'm sure a few of you have seen me complain about my MIL a lot on here, so here it goes again... she's going through a divorce right now with a guy that really restricted a lot of the things she did, and last night was mine and my boyfriend's date night, so my mom was watching baby. We decided to let her drink with us, and she got completely intoxicated after 3 or 4 shots and basically started shit talking me, like just making digs at me about my appearance and how I talked and stuff and my boyfriend started joking around with her so I ended up throwing alcohol on him and his mom started kicking and punching me really hard and I'm not going to fight back an old lady or anyone for that matter, so just ran off crying and my boyfriend followed me to talk and say sorry because he didn't know he actually hurt my feelings, but then his mom followed us upstairs and continued talking shit to me and told me to stop being such a baby and to get over it and I just kept walking away from her until she finally left me alone. Woke up this morning, she doesn't remember any of it and I told her everything she did to me and just keeps saying stuff like "no it didn't happen" and won't even say sorry. My stomach and arms are bruised from being kicked and punched. Thank fucking god my baby wasn't home. What do I do? I really want to just leave, but I can't convince my boyfriend to come with me and my son. He doesn't think the stuff she continuously does is that serious, but last night pushed my limits.
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My BIL is a HUGE asshole. I let it go on for too long because I grew up in a household of abuse as well. I finally told my fiancé everything that was going on and he was shocked and sad. His brother wouldn't say things in front of him. something else came up and my fiancé didn't handle it the way I would have. So I told him it wasn't ok, packed my bags and left with our son. My fiancé confronted his brother & once his brother saw that I wouldn't stand for that shit he's been polite. They know better than to disrespect me now. They won't risk not seeing my son or breaking my fiancé's heart. Now that may not be the best answer for every situation. But I definitely think taking a stand and leaving makes your stance very clear.
@bonniesue, I get what you're saying. I'm just not sure what to say to her. I can't be mean to her but I feel like I have to be stern and I don't know how to do that nicely when it comes to this. I was physically and emotionally abused growing up so this isn't something I take lightly or will excuse for being drunk
When you respect someone you learn how to stand up for them quick. I'm telling you from experience. Put your foot down and show her it's not ok. You don't want her to continue this. Also he needs to handle things right there and then. Not let it go hours and "later". Good luck, that's super shitty
This just came out a few hours ago that she recalls nothing and my boyfriend did say that he's going to say something to her. Just stuff she's done before like making comments and stuff, he doesn't know how to handle it I guess.. @bonniesue
That's what I'm saying. I just explained to him that he can come or he can stay but either way I'm leaving. I can't stand the way she treats me. I know she wouldn't harm my baby, but she's not going to harm me or put me down in front of my child either because when he's old enough to understand, I feel like that will just make him think it's okay to do himself @emmajeremy2627
That's horrible. Leave without him. If he can't stand up for you, he doesn't respect you. He should be demanding she apologize and have your back.
If your boyfriend wont leave with you after what his mom did to you its time to think about going alone just you and your baby. That's not ok yet he sounds like he thinks its fine. Drunk or not thats no excuse. what if it had been toward your baby, definitely not safe there
I know I have to do what's right for my kid, but at this point my only option is going back to my parent's house and my dad is the one who abused me. I've been a stay at home mom so without my boyfriend's help, I'm not in a place financially where I can get my own place. I'm really stuck. He's also 17 so he can't legally leave his house for another 6 months, so I don't want to make him pay child support when I guess he doesn't have the option of leaving if he wants to @bonniesue