is "male post partum depression" a thing? bc if so my boyfriend has it π he's trying so hard to bond with eden but every time she cries (which is often) he can't handle it. and he's not just being a wimp or trying to not take care of her, he's really having an internal struggle with it bc he's explained that her cry envokes a physical response in him that make him incapable of doing anything with her, he gets almost angry and he knows not to touch her when he's angry so he puts her down and she screams. he has cried and expressed how he feels so horrible for not being able to soothe her like i can. i do not for one second believe he is trying to be lazy, so don't offer any "tough love" advice. i really would rather not get advice unless you've personally been through it or know someone close to you that has had this problem. my boyfriend loves our daughter and wants to be able to do his part in helping care for her, but her cry just is too much for him.
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@jujukiss, thank you, just knowing we aren't the only ones makes me feel a million times better
@jdownin0511, yea my husband used to say he wasn't used to her cries so he didn't know how to handle it when she cried. it does take time though. when ever I leave the house I have to take her with me because he's afraid of being alone with her. but try those things and keep it consistent baby and hubby will be ok. good luck
@jujukiss, omg i'm totally going to try the shirt thing just so i can help her make that association with him. but yeah right now we are trying to help him focus and in a way meditate through her cries so he doesn't tense up and add to her fuss
idk if it's a thing but my husband is going through the same thing. some days are better than others. my baby cries non stop when she's with him. she doesn't cry with anyone else but him. We began to realize that she tolerates him more in the morning when she's just waking up. he will feed her then change her. throughout the day I will give her to him but have her looking at me and smiling. When sleeping I take 1 of his shirts that has his smell and cover her with it. she tolerates him alot more but he HAS TO change his ways with her. babies are sensitive and can feel when something is wrong
Yes. Now he has a great bond with my son and he has his own ways of dealing with him. He's learned patience.
@junesmommy_15, was he eventually able to tolerate your baby crying?
Well no.He's never gotten that angry
That's normal for men. My husband went through the same
My best advice is baby bonding , I would have him and baby do some skin to skin & just father daughter time. also maybe a doc or therapist could help it sounds like maybe he has some anxiety & honestly it could be cause she's a girl dads sometimes have a hard time bonding. Iv even heard some guys have fears of changing them or holding a baby to young afraid they will drop them ect. I highly recommend he gets control of the anger cause girls do not get easier with time it's an adjustment for dads to learn sensitivity & patience with them. @jdownin0511