My fiancé and I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in July. Things were really hard for about a week and then I started feeling a lot better, now starting about two weeks ago I've just been having a bunch of breakdowns about the baby. I am around my baby nieces all the time and my pregnant soon to be sister in law and that's definitely making it a lot harder. We got pregnant about a month apart and so I know how far along I would be constantly. I'm just trying to figure out what's going to make me feel better or if any of you have suggestions. We went to the doc, if we don't get pregnant by April we will start ovulation pills. I'm irregular and have some other problems we are trying to fix. It's frustrating and upsetting, all we want is our baby.
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@proudmama331, they don't know. If I have another miscarriage then they will do more testing or if we are still struggling to conceive. We are young, otherwise healthy. There aren't foreseeable factors.
@addisonblake, miscarriages are a huge deal they break you. Yes never blame yourself. Try to remember it will happen at the perfect time...I had to remind myself that all the time. It will work out. My OBGYN was amazing with what he did to help make sure my girl got here. Do they have an idea of what might have caused it? My OB doc had an idea so he put me on a prescription until I was like 12 wks. He also did many ultrasounds I think with my girl I had 10-15 and the day I went into labor with her I had had one more scheduled and an induction date. With my son I only had I believe 2-3.
@proudmama331, I'm sure trying. Thanks. :) his family is truly wonderful, mine is utterly unsupportive (minus my step-mom) so it's difficult. They don't understand why the miscarriage is a big deal and why it's so heartbreaking. My mother just blamed me for the miscarriage, when it was definitely out of my control and I wanted the baby more than anything.
I lost 3 babies all by 8 wks after I had my first in 2012. The first lose was October of 2013 then again mid 2014 and one last year. I still to this day cry sometimes. Support is huge! But you will never forget your angel. I have a now 9 wk old and even tho she is happy healthy rainbow baby I still cry or get upset about my angels. When I lost the one last year my husbands aunt found out she was pregnant shortly after and I could not hardly look at her or talk to her. Once she had her son it was a little better. It helps to talk about it. Don't hold back your emotions let them flow! It eventually gets a little easier but takes much time and healing! Hang in there. Always try to look on the bright side of things!
@starlite0303, thank you. My fiancé is very supportive and he gets sad sometimes too. He can always tell when I'm starting to get sad about the baby and is responsive immediately with hugs. That's a lot of help. We never got an ultrasound because the doc didn't want to do one for whatever reason and then we switched doctors after the miscarriage and they said there was no reason she shouldn't have done an ultrasound. The whole experience was awful and the ER was awful and I never want to see that doctor again. Ugh.
I lost my baby at 8 weeks too a couple of years ago. I didn't know until I went in for my first check at 9.5 weeks and there was no heart beat it was the worst moment of my life. To also know that my child was dead sitting in my womb hurt even more and then the wait to miscarry was awful. I was like you strong and in shock and sad at first but after the first week depression started setting In and I cried all the time and didn't want to do anything. What helped was my husband being supportive and crying with me being able to yell cry scream you need a support system and you need to just grieve until you are okay slowly in time your wounds will heal a bit. Just stay positive and the thought of getting pregnant again kept me going so just stay positive you'll never forget your baby and the pain will always be there but I promise in time things will get better and when it's right you'll get pregnant again. Good luck and prayers to you
Well I hope everything works out!