@itsjasmine, I'm working on taking my CNA class next semester so that I can get a job. But I can't even leave my son for more than 4 hours because I breastfeed. My boyfriend and I live with my mom, but she's an alcoholic so she doesn't really do much either.. But all he pays her is $300 a month for rent so I don't necessarily need a job. My mom buys my son stuff too whenever he needs diapers or clothes. My mom changes more diapers than my boyfriend does..

Do you have to get a job? My boyfriend wanted me to get one but because we don't make a lot of money. But I don't see why you should get a job if you guys are good. Unless you want to. But I think my doctor said it was crucial for mom to be at home with baby the first year. And if he solely just does little things, don't do anything. My boyfriend works from 9-6 and he still comes home and helps with making bottles, changing diapers, cleaning the kitchen. In the mornings he wakes up with baby to feed him. You have to be serious when you tell him these things. Make sure he knows that he needs to be helping

i just leave n take care of me...get hair or done or nails etc. he will figure it out. if you there he will expect the help

if your not he will figure it out.

@edomke, Well, I'm 17.. He's 21.. I go to school every day on top breastfeeding, come home and clean.. He works 8-5 so I understand he can't help out a lot, but when I ask him to do stuff he always changes the subject or does it a month later. Lol and @itsjasmine I've told him so many times if he doesn't start helping out I'm done.. And then he will do little stuff for a couple days and then he's right back to doing nothing. He always tells me I need to get a job but if I do I wont ever be home, and nothing will ever get done.

I was very blunt with him. I said if I'm the only one raising this baby then what the hell am I doing here. I could easily find my own job. My mom would've happily taken me and my son in. It was as simple as a phone call away. Needless to say, he changed real quick. Now he's a lot more helpful

But he now does help when I ask because I don't ask for much and he knows it after a few months of fighting about it

To be honest though I only work three days a week so I do all the laundry and most of the house work so I just eventually got it down. Took me awhile though. Idk how much you work or he works though. Every house is different

Oh believe me there was fighting with my husband and I but I just stood my ground and said well I guess you should do it then...if you don't get really mad and yell and just stay calm and stand your ground it will change. My husband is young (21 and 20 when we had my son) so it just takes some time for them to grow up

@edomke, I've tried it.. I can not do our laundry and it'll sit there until he yells at me that he doesn't have clothes. There's a pile of clothes on our bedroom floor that I've asked him to pick up everyday for the last 2 weeks. And if I don't clean, it'll never get clean. And it's an everyday thing that I complain to him.. I also never get a "thank you" out of everything I do.

Obviously not with your son lol I would focus on one thing at a time

Honestly I just stopped and my husband kicked in gear. Tell him I'm tired I'm just not gonna worry about the house. It worked for me