My husband had a vasectomy today. I am having a very hard time not being upset by it.

We have 4 children together. And he has 2 older kids from a previous relationship. He is 43 and I am 28. I understand his want to be done and not have to do the newborn stage anymore. But I don't feel "done" (if that makes any sense). I always saw myself with a huge family.

After we had our third, he went behind my back and made an appointment and then scheduled his procedure. He had to cancel because of work and then I actually found out I was pregnant with our fourth. So he just recently called and made the appointment. And it was today.

I'm having a tough time with this. Is it normal for me to feel this animosity towards him?! I feel bad. But I'm very hurt by this....