I really need advice:
*no cheating involved from my knowledge*
I broke up with my bf(the father) and told him I was moving back home, and so he moved out. LITERALLY and hour later I took a test and found out I was 3 weeks pregnant.
I called and told him, and his exact words were "wow, well I support whatever you do"
I ended up vacating my apt. literally like 3 days later in Nevada, and moving back to California.
But before I left I texted him and asked him if he would like me to bring the internet modem to his job since he paid for it and I know how expensive they are. He asked why, and I said because my family is here packing me up to move me back to Cali and I'm throwing things I don't need away. He says (his exact words) " just throw it away, I don't care"
that was the last time he's responded to me...I texted him the first ultrasound when I was 2 months and told him to email me so I could have his email to update him. NO RESPOND I called to ask him about sickle cell in his family. NO RESPOND so I called his mom and she's apologizing for her sons actions and she being very supportive, like answering all of my questions about medical history..
so I basically gave up I haven't spoken to him in two months. I've changed my number (not because of him) and I was wondering if I should try to reach out again or should I leave him alone.. I don't want to be with him anymore that I'm still sure of, but I just want to make sure there's no confusion when the big day comes and I want to do things without him(like the actual birth process )because obviously he hasn't been there.
is this worth advice? lol
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If you don't want to have him in the delivery room you don't have to have him in the room that day is all about you and those precious little babies. Awwww im glad he texted back I hope he keeps in contact with you and gets it together
@lovingmatheo, @klutzy I texted him, he said he didn't know I changed numbers. he asked how I and the babies are doing. that was about it. I'm glad I texted him so there's no more confusion
@lovingmatheo, yeah I would never keep him from the pregnancy or the babies, but as far as the delivery room, I'd rather have my mom and sister or his mom there since they've been the ones that supported me.
@klutzy, me and his mom talks all the time. I gave her the time and date of all of my doctors appointments, and she texts me the day of usually super early just to make sure I update her. she tells me stories of when he was a baby, asks me if I've started showing so she can send maternity clothes. She's super excited and happy. Even with the relationship she told me she wished I would've told her the relationship was rocky before I left I'm guessing she thinks she could've helped.
I feel like because she's so involved, I shouldn't worry about him, but out of gratitude I should.. if that makes sense
I would reach out one more time. Say hey this is my new number, say how pregnancy is right now and that this is your final attempt in including him. But if he wants to know more he knows where to find u. Are u updating his mom at all??
If he comes around let him be part of the process pregnancy is the most amazing experience but if he but he doesn't god blessed him you tried and that's all that matters. Don't over think to much just let things fall into place
thanks @lovingmatheo Its wrecking my brain. somehow he'll be the victim of all of this. I just wanna make sure he can't use that excuse.
Just do what feels right to you hun if he's choosing not to be part of such an amazing experience he is for sure missing out if he besides to come around maybe you should let him only if he decides be involve a baby needs both parents even if they are not together they should still be on good terms well that's just my opinion
@2hrtbts, that's good. Best of luck with the pregnancy!!