9 days post partum.
I love my baby girl so much. I'm so happy she's here. But I have been really feeling like I can't do enough for her. Bad bc my mom has been helping me with everything bc my SO has to work during the day, I had an emergency csection and recovery has been rough. I cant jump up to get her when she cries, I can't bend over and pick her pacifier up or diaper etc, if I drop it. I can't lift her carseat into the van to buckle her in. I'm sleeping when she sleeps and sometimes awake bc the pain meds make me sleepy. Then by the time my SO gets home he wants to be all over her, and it makes me jealous a little bc although I'm home all day with her , I still feel like I don't get that bonding time with her other than when I nurse her. I'm also just really having a hard time adjusting bc my anxiety has been on edge about SIDS (No I don't need any advice on preventatives) my first born Khloe, last year passed at 3.5 weeks old from it. so I'm like checking to see if she's breathing randomly. Has anyone else been a stay at home mommy, and found it hard to feel like you're doing a good job? Or found it hard to not feel like youre just here to tAke care of the needs and your worth is zip once everything is done? my hormones are just all over the place nd of course this is day two of my SO And I arguing In the evening bc I'm emotional and he thinks I don't want him having time with Makenzie, that I want her to myself and it's really not that at all...i just want some time with her too, but am having trouble figuring out how to bond. and I don't want anyone really doing anything for her other than myself bc she's my baby...well, our baby. I'M SO OVER THIS AND CONFUSED 😣
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Thank you so much, this helped a lot. ❤ @rene_74
you're doing fine dollin, it was hard for us too. my son didn't have a very strong latch, so he had breastfeeding jaundice, almost died of dehydration. then it was a struggle for me bc my p.p. was empty nest syndrome. I missed being pregnant. I wanted to be late, but I was induced 3 days early. so worth the not latching I felt like a terrible mother. still breast myself up for not knowing hunger cries and not knowing how to breastfeed properly. but I supplemented for a week, pumped for 3, then went to try nursing again- letting him pacify on me, then b4 I knew it, he was ebf, and still is at almost 2 1/2 (eats plenty of food) and loves his nummies. it'll take you time to adjust. hubby was so used to having all of your attention that now he may be feeling jealous. trey and set time aside for the both of you. Eben if it's s cup of hot chocolate at the end of the night after dd is asleep. or start a show on Netflix and make a date on Thursdays. I'm a sahm, and it was hard getting into a groove. it's still hard and my son is much older now. you need to try to keep open communication and try to be understanding. both of you. it'll get easier. I promise. good luck momma 😇😇
you're welcome