I miss my eight-year-old she went with her dad tonight and in tears! She didn't want to go and her dad kept blaming me that it was my fault she didn't want to go it's his birthday tomorrow so I really try to convince her to go spend the night that it would mean a lot to daddy for his birthday in return he gets so angry at me he blames me he shows no kindness I spend the night that it would mean a lot to daddy for his birthday in return he gets so angry at me he blames me he shows no kindness At all to me!!
Before we were having problems we always said we would have a joint custody now that we're having problems this time around I don't want joint custody i want more.
I'm afraid if I tell him he's going to explode and just get mad and fight but we barely communicate now without arguing how are we supposed to coparent 50-50
Not to mention our son that's 10 weeks old I don't even want to think about him going with daddy for a night is this horrible to think horrible to say will get easier or we will only continue to hurt??
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Yes it is. And I believe he is girl. It's just you two don't get along anymore. I understand that and I'm sorry about that. Awwww that's sad and hard. I'm sorry to hear about that. Wow that's alot. Right, I understand. Awww, and yeah it's hard to force your little girl to do something she didn't want to. @heavenwings
It is hard because my husband is a good dad and he means well as being a good guy but he is a loss as being a husband and his last at being a man right now. He struggles with his own stuff but he also struggles financially and work he is living with his mom he doesn't have a job and he has left us seven times in almost 9 years of our marriage I want to be happy but how can I when I'm terrified with the custody part!! She did end up staying which is good. But it was really hard to have to really force her to go
Awwww, I'm so sorry! But my mom did the same thing with my brother and I. And we cried not to go with him. But my mom said that he's our dad and he loves us. And she was always honest and made easy sure we saw our dad. But my point is that even though she did that, she didn't stay with him because he was meant to her too. And I'm sorry your going through this. I hope I don't have to go through this with my husband, ever!
@mommyofsoontob3, thank you for replying and sharing your story!! I have been up all night and praying.
I do know I need to let him go. I need and I say this with pain but I need a divorce. My thing is I am afraid to go against what we had talked about before with custody! It being 50/50 joint.
I don't want that anymore. I want my kids most the time. Even my husbands dad that I trust and speak to had told me Desi he isn't going to just change after all these years him going back and fourth to his old ways. Leaving me and my daughter and now our son. He said he sees him being more of a weekend dad. He said he doesn't have his priorities straight and he isn't one he even sees to get up and care for them. He said he doesn't see why any judge wouldn't give me sole custody. If he had 50% he would have a say in everything. I feel my prayers have been answered I know I need to let him go and file for divorce. The only thing is the custody. I mean I don't even know how to handle it and where to start. Do I ask him? Do I just file and in a way blind side him? Do I settle for joint? Is there such thing for anything other then joint custody or sole custody? My daughter has spoken she doesn't want to go back and fourth... I have so many questions