Feeling emotional... my daughter is nine and she hasn't seen her dad in close to six years. He refuses to pay child support or even give his address to DHHS. So I'm leaving the grocery store with my daughter and he pulls in front of me with his new wife driving their new car!(dealer tags still) he saw me and her and literally hid his head and looked away... after I got in my car I cried it makes me so sad that this man doesn't want to know his daughter. And on top of it can't even help with the support she needs financially.... I cried because I'm so hurt that this man cares so little and as I struggle to buy groceries he could care less. He took his son and wife into the store like it didn't matter to him... my daughter is amazing and it makes me so sad that she won't ever have a father.
I know what your going through. My daughter father truned his back on us before she was even born, and she just resently truned 9 years old. But this is what you need to understand, his lack of presents does not dictate your childs faith, however his lack of presents does dictate his faith. He will never be able to have a functional relationship with anyone, since he lacks the ability to have a functional relationship with his child. Trust me, he's not a good father to his son, and i bet his relationship sucks with his parents, especially his mom. His relationship with his wife will not last, and the fact that shes with him, knowing that he has another child that he does take care of, should tell you what type of woman she is. I'm sure she walks around with her nose in the air, however will be in the same boat as you, sooner or later. I know you habe heard it a million times before; however, you have to keep your head up. Search for and obatin every resourse that you can, in order to ease your load. Find someone that you can talk to about your feelings, work toward getting yourself in a better financial postition, better job, retrun to school etc...
It hurts, because like many other single mothers. When you thought about becoming a parent. You did not think of doing it alone. But here you are, and this shit is hard. Nevertheless, the days go by and things get better. What's going to happen to him, is going to happen and your not going to have to do anything. I know you have heard this before, but, you have to move on. You can't make him be a father, and your state does not care about him not being a father either. He does not deserve the stage time your mind and heart is giving him.
he's a dead beat she dont need him in her life trust me she's better off without him because mt real dad was hardly in my life and the only time he would talk to his 3 kids is when he'd get a new girlfriend or wife (hes been married 3 times) the only reason he'd talk to us is so he could act like he was father of the year when in reality we knew as soon as he "impressed" the girl he was with he'd quit talking to us and break up with that girl he's been married for two years now and treats his new wife's kids and grandkids like they are his and they ain't and he just breaks mine and mt big Sis and big bros hearts everyday that he ignores us so your daughter is better off not even having him in her life so that he can't say mean horrible things to her and break her heart like my dad does so if I was you I wouldn't tell her about him when she's older and if she asks about him just say that he left and he's a rotten person cause that's true he did leave and he is a horrible rotten waste of a person for leaving his daughter behind like nothing happened
I agree @vamommy89 he is an awful person. It just breaks my heart to hear her say I don't have a dad and know that's the one thing I can't fix at this point. I hate to see her hurting.!